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What to Do When You Are Facing an Unexpected, Unwanted, or Unplanned Pregnancy?

Finding out you are pregnant can bring out so many emotions, but they may not be the best if you are facing an unexpected, unwanted, or unplanned pregnancy. You are not alone in these feelings. Pregnancy might have been the last thing on your mind, and we are here to be your support team.

You can choose between keeping your child, going through an abortion, or giving your child up for adoption. These three choices may make you anxious about choosing between them because the clock is ticking before you give birth. Abortion has a limited time limit of 22 weeks, but with adoption, you have until you give birth and a little bit afterward to choose this.

We are here for you throughout your entire decision-making process. You can contact us here at Adoption Choices of Missouri, and you can change your mind as many times as you want. If you don’t sign the final relinquishing papers, you can back out or come back in at any time. Your adoption process is completely up to you.

Unexpected and Unplanned Pregnancy

You could be just starting a new career, having trouble with finances, or not even know who the birth father is. Finding out that you are unexpectedly pregnant is something you might not want to see right now. We understand how worried you can be when you find out that you are pregnant. You might have an infinite amount of reasons as to why it’s not a good time to be pregnant right now, but we are here for you.

An unexpected pregnancy can fuel anxiety in your life. Adoption could be the best option for you because, through the adoption process, you will be taken through everything step by step with an adoption caseworker from our adoption agency in Missouri, Adoption Choices of Missouri.

Your adoption caseworker will be by your side through every step, including choosing which type of adoption you want, matching with adoptive parents, choosing a hospital and delivery plan, and choosing if you want post-placement counseling. This is all something you can do when you are a birth mother and don’t want to keep your child and raise him or her.

If you are having financial troubles right now and don’t think you can choose adoption, you can! Birth mothers don’t pay for any legal or agency fees. You will also have the option for financial aid, and this can help a ton, especially with the adoptive parents covering the rest of the costs that the financial aid doesn’t. Money should not stop you from choosing adoption if it stops you from keeping your child after an unexpected pregnancy.

Unwanted Pregnancy

Seeing those two pink lines on the pregnancy test might be the last thing you want to see right now. You might have so many emotions, all arranging from mad to frustrated to having thoughts of “why me?” and “why right now?”. Your feelings are valid. Pregnancy can halt so many people’s lives and make people so emotional when it was something they didn’t want.

Having an unwanted pregnancy could mean that you are not ready to have kids right now, you have the family that you want, and you don’t want to add more kids into the mix. It might also not be the right time for you to be pregnant at this point in your life. If you are experiencing an unwanted pregnancy, there are a few options for you. One being abortion, but that may not be in your mindset, or you might not feel comfortable going through with that. That is okay. You get to decide what happens with your pregnancy because it is your body.

There are certain abortion laws in every state, but in Missouri, abortion is legal. With only one abortion clinic in Missouri, this can be hard for you if you have to travel across the state to have this done. You are also limited to 22 weeks for your decision unless your health is in jeopardy. This can be even more worrisome when there is a short time limit, unlike adoption.

If you don’t feel as if abortion is right for you, adoption is another option that could be great for you. You can choose adoption on the first day you find out you’re pregnant or during your 36th week of pregnancy. Adoption will allow you to have the pregnancy until term and bring a child into this world, giving you more time to think about all of your choices. Adoption for you as a birth mother means that you will not keep the baby. Your baby will go to the adoptive parents you choose. This could be a great decision when you are facing an unwanted pregnancy.

It is okay to say that your baby is unwanted. You are valid in your feelings, and you don’t have to hide how you truly feel. Here at Adoption Choices of Missouri, we want to be a support team for you. We are here for you at 2 in the afternoon or the morning. As a birth mother, you get the choice to have these resources when you are going through a traumatic time in your life.

Connect and Find Out Your Adoption Options

We know how hard it can be for many birth mothers to find out they are pregnant. You are not alone in these feelings. Here at Adoption Choices of Missouri, we are here for you 24/7. Birth mothers are our number one priority, and we want you to feel as safe and comfortable as possible during this hard time. Pregnancy is stressful enough, but when you don’t want this or expect this to happen, it can be even harder.

Call or text us anytime with any concerns, questions, or if you require support. We can give you as much support as you need as a birth mother. We will be more than willing to help you decide whether or not adoption is the best decision for you. Contact us today and get the support you need!

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800


Molly Allington

Meet the Author: Molly Allington is an aspiring author born and raised in Syracuse, New York. When she’s not watching her latest Netflix obsession, you can find her nose deep in a book or in her writing. She has been writing books since she was twelve and is in the process of trying to get her finished books published. Molly has a BA in Creative Writing from Southern New Hampshire University. With her writing, she is hoping to share supportive information and help as many people as possible. Once she starts her own family, she is wanting to adopt.