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Ways to Handle the Holidays After Placement 

By Jordan Smith

If you are a woman who is pregnant and considering seeking adoption, Adoption Choices of Missouri is a responsive and trusting agency to work with and provides full support through the pregnancy and adoption process. This is how adoption works, you would begin the adoption process with the step-by-step method, and there will be one on one guidance with a specialist.

 First, you would need to reach out to Adoption Choices of Missouri, where you can text, call, or fill out an online form to begin the process. That can be on the phone, by video, or somewhere in person that is fitting for you. Adoption Choices of Missouri comes to meet you.

Here at Adoption Choices of Missouri, it is important for us to get to know your unique situation, which is then when we would create your adoption plan. You are in control of the viewing and choosing of the adoption family, and depending on how open you are, you can meet and communicate together until the baby’s due date. Before that, you will have developed your birth hospital plan, for when that time comes, your counselor will be with you to guide you. 

When the baby leaves the hospital, it will be with the adopted family, and your final consent will be given. The support does not end there. After the adoption, there will be minimum communication from the adopted family in regard to the baby via pictures and/or letters if you so choose. depending on your level of openness.

The Holidays are Coming Up. How do I Cope After Placing My Baby for Adoption?

Going through the process of adoption may seem simple in its methods, but emotionally, it could affect you negatively. The negative thoughts of “Giving my baby up for adoption” or “Adopt out my baby because I can’t take care of it” are thoughts that could hurt you psychologically. With the holidays approaching, we are to be joyous and thankful, but negative thoughts could affect our ability to do so. Here will be shared a number of ways you can work through any negativity and focus more on the positive of making a hard but respected decision. It is important that you know that the birth mother will always be respected and dignity at this adoption agency, and learning positive coping skills is also important. So, what can you do to enjoy the holidays after an adoption?

1. Accept Your Emotions:

When a specific emotion arises, it is important to acknowledge and feel that emotion. Accepting these emotions means avoiding the burden of putting those negative emotions aside to never face them. Recentering yourself by sitting calmly and taking some deep breaths will also benefit you during this time of recovering after pregnancy and the adoption process

2. Develop a Safe Space:

Find a space in your home where you are most comfortable with privacy. This could be where you perhaps stop to recenter and do your breathing exercises. Having a designated safe space helps give you security when any negative emotions come up. This space could also be used for meditation and/or imagination enhancement as well, along with being a nice calm space after a pregnancy. 

3. Surround Yourself with Loved Ones

Being around those you love can bring warmth to your heart, which would be very beneficial after your pregnancy and adoption. Having your support network be there for you during this time could bring positivity to you and reassure you of the decision you made. To go through an unplanned pregnancy and the process of adoption, it is a blessing during the holidays to have family and those you love to be with you.

There you have it, a number of ways to cope with your emotions during the holidays. It can be tough to go through pregnancy and to make the decision to adopt, but in the end, only you know the right choice to make. During the holidays, it could add some overwhelming emotions on top of that, so try and accept those emotions to start your healing process. Making a safe space in your home could add additional security for you and some comfort during a vulnerable time. It is a blessing to have those that support you be there to also show you that you are not alone. No need to look for adoption agencies near me or agencies in Missouri. Just go to Adoption Choices of Missouri, and we will be there to guide and help you every step of the way.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond. Please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri, call or text us at 816-527-9800.