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Types of Birth Fathers: Known vs. Unknown

By Melissa Benedek

There may be many things that come to mind when you think of a birth father. You might think of a birth father as the father of a child who he is not aware of or present in the child’s life. Or as someone who is not married to a birth mother. There are many assumptions one can make, whether correct or incorrect, about who a birth father is. Yet, many beliefs are founded upon stereotypes that are negative and portray all birth fathers as absent, careless, and lazy. 

There is not much accurate information available about birth fathers in general. However, at Adoption Choices of Missouri, we believe that it is important to recognize that birth fathers are as important as birth mothers in the adoption process. However, we want to make sure that you are getting the necessary resources as well throughout your journey. Additionally. It is important to know that a birth father (known or unknown) is a part of the child’s life. When you are creating your adoption plan, it is important also to understand the roles of the birth parent(s). Choosing adoption in Missouri ensures that you and your baby are being taken care of. 

Who is a Birth Father In The Adoption Process? 

To begin, let’s first establish who a birth father is. A birth father is the father of a child who is adopted or is in the process of becoming an adoptee. A birth father’s relationship with his child varies depending on his position when going through adoption in Missouri.  Some birth fathers may or may not have parental rights, and some may or may not be in a relationship with the child’s birth mother. What remains constant is that a birth father helped bring life into this world and will forever be a part of his child. Every birth father is unique, and so is his child.

Types of Birth Fathers Going Through Adoption 

When you are giving your child up for adoption, it is important to understand the different types of birth fathers. Comprehending these terms further helps you to outline your adoption plan. Furthermore, it helps with making the decision to have the birth father assist you in outlining your plan. With that, you can continue choosing the provided adoption options. Here are the types of birth fathers. 

A Known Birth Father In The Adoption Journey 

When a birth father is known, he may be in favor of adoption, have a neutral opinion or be against it. If a known birth father does not want to be involved in the adoption process, he will need to sign away his parental rights. This is so the adoption can move forward and be legally finalized. 

However, if he wants to partake in the adoption process, both of you can meet to create an adoption plan. Even if the birth father chooses to be involved in the process, you still have the ultimate say on your plan. This depends on what kind of relationship the birth parents share. For instance, you are allowed to have the birth father help support you if you both have a strong and healthy relationship. However, if both of you have recently/had split, you might not feel comfortable with him being present. Whatever the case, the birth father must be prepared to respect you and support you. 

Showing support through the adoption plan shows that the birth father wants to give his child a better life. Adoption is a very emotional decision and not one that can be taken lightly. Adoption Choices of Missouri is dedicated to helping birth parents through the initial adoption,  transition and beyond. Counseling services are available to both the birth mother and father at no cost to either of them.

An Unknown Birth Father In The Adoption Process 

An unknown birth father is someone who is either not around or not known. He could be anyone from a one-stand to a man who sexually assaulted her. Unknown birth fathers are, unfortunately, very common within the adoption industry. But don’t worry. This doesn’t mean that your adoption process will be halted. You are still able to place your baby for adoption and search for prospective adoptive parents. 

In cases like this, our agency does our due diligence to locate him with any and all information that is provided. If the birth father does not appear within the allotted time, the process is allowed to continue and become finalized without his signature.

Choosing Adoption With Our Agencies 

If you are pregnant, considering adoption, or going through an unplanned pregnancy, Adoption Choices of Missouri is here to help. We can assist you in determining if your child’s birth father is known or unknown. Additionally, we can provide guidance as to what steps to take. Remember that you are making a crucial decision that can be life-changing for your child and that we are here to support you every step of the way. Depending on your situation with your child’s birth father, his presence or absence will not impact your adoption journey. What matters is that you and your baby are safe and healthy.  When you are coming close to the finalizing stage, our local agencies can go through a home study checklist. This will ensure that your child is in a loving and nurturing home with your chosen adoptive family. 

If you have any questions or concerns regarding your specific circumstances, don’t hesitate to reach out to our adoption caseworkers. We are more than happy to put your mind at ease and will ensure that you have the most empowering and positive adoption journey possible — both with and without your child’s birth father.