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The Hospital Process For potential Birth Mothers In Missouri Adoptions

As a pregnant woman who will eventually become a birth mother in the next few months, you will have to consider the things you need to do to get ready to meet your baby. An important part of your adoption journey is your hospital process and stay, as these are the precious days you will get to spend with your son or daughter after birth. At Adoption Choices of Missouri, we are here to support you; we have listed the steps of the hospital process to help you as an expectant mother as a  soon-to-be birth mother understands this process to have a positive adoption experience.

An Adoption Pre-Hospital Plan 

As a soon to be the birth mother, you and your birth parent caseworker will create your pre-hospital plan that details things such as: 

  • Take a tour of the hospital to see how they accommodate pregnant women. 
  • Choose a hospital that makes you feel happy, safe, and like you have a voice. 
  • Speak to your doctors/nurses about your labor and delivery 
  • Tell the hospital staff what your plans are before and after delivery–if you want a medicated birth or natural birth, or skin-to-skin contact?
  • Who do you want in the delivery room with you?
  • If you have questions or concerns regarding your hospital stay?

Your pre-hospital checklist will be important to complete, as it will help you feel more in control over your labor and delivery and the adoption altogether. As a potential birth mother, you will want to feel the most comfortable and let your voice be heard. Your birth parent caseworker from Adoption Choices of Missouri will help address your questions and concerns to help put your mind at ease during this time. 


Your Adoption Plan in the Hospital

As a birth mother, your detailed adoption plan at the hospital will tell of all the wants and needs that you want for your child. Your adoption plan will help form a bond between you, your child, and their adoptive parents. Creating your unique adoption plan will benefit you and your baby as your adoption process continues to move forward. Our agency, Adoption Choices of Missouri, has made a list of what your adoption plan should have in it:


  • Pick the type of adoption you want.
  • Create your unique adoption plan.
  •  Pick your child’s adoptive parents.
  • Openly communicate with your child’s adoptive parents.
  • Create your post-adoption plan
  • Finally, sign and date all important legal documents of your adoption, like all medical, adoption forms, and the baby’s birth certificate, to make your adoption finalized. 

Post-Adoption Placement Plan 

Like a new birth mother with your beautiful baby, you might take a short rest, and once your emotions have calmed down a bit. You might want to begin creating your post-placement plan. This plan involves what happens to your baby after giving birth and going home with their adoptive parents. You may want to consider some things like:

  • Do you want to see the baby before they go home?
  • Do you want any last-minute photos with the adoptive parents or alone with your baby?
  • Do you have a special gift for the baby that the adoptive parents can keep?
  • Do you want to leave the hospital before or after the baby leaves?

You may have to consider these questions to answer after giving birth or spending a  little alone time with your baby. Although these questions may be emotional to answer, take your time to process these questions and consider your comfort level at the moment. As a new birth mother, you know yourself, and if you need additional support, your licensed Missouri adoption casework can connect you to our support services if required. Having your baby go home with new parents will be hard, but giving the gift of parenthood to your birth child’s parents out of pure love is worth it. 

Advice Future Birth Mothers in Missouri

As a birth mother, your hospital stay will look different from other birth mothers in Missouri, as your experience is unique to you and your baby. Just remember, at our local Missouri agency, Adoption Choices of Missouri, you will have the full support of our adoption caseworkers. In addition to this remember, that your hospital process will take time, and you can change anything you want to fit you and your baby’s needs best. Hopefully, going through this hospital process in your adoption journey will help alleviate some anxiety and bring peace of mind to you as a birth mother. You control this process as you deserve a joyful and successful adoption.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Samara Wiley is a published author of poetry, essays, and an environmental children’s storybook called, Waiting for the Water Fairy. She graduated from Benedictine University in 2018 with a double Bachelor of Arts in English Literature and French. She has been published in three small poetry anthologies one was called Talented.

Her other writing accomplishments include: winning a high school poetry competition and $2500 for her high school, having two out of her five novels be considered for publication, and writing movie critic reviews for her university’s newsletter.

Although she has Cerebral Palsy and has had a turbulent childhood, Samara puts these small specs of herself into her writing to personally connect with her audience. She prides herself on pushing the boundaries in her writing and in her personal life with everything she does. Samara writes with her heart and a voice of compassion, and loves to pull from her top passions in life.

She currently lives in Yorkville, Illinois with her mom and two sisters.