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What if the Adoptive Family Doesn’t Accept my Baby?

What if the Adoptive Family Doesn’t Accept My Baby?

One of the scariest thoughts for mothers like you looking to put their baby up for adoption is the thought that the adoptive family isn’t loving. You can be sure that you care about your baby; after all, you can see your own thoughts. But how can you know that adoptive families will care? How do adoption agencies in Missouri make sure that only loving families end up in the system? Will the adoptive family care if the baby came from a teen pregnancy or has a complicated family history? Adoption Choices of Missouri knows how difficult the idea of an adoptive family can be for birth mothers. Here are just a few of the reasons why you can feel secure when giving your baby up for adoption. 

All Adoptive Families Support the Adoption Financially

Adoptive families give their financial resources to help facilitate the adoption. After months of waiting for the opportunity to adopt, they wholeheartedly support the safety of both the birth mother and the child. These families have made a significant financial commitment to adopting a child. Some of the fees they pay even go towards making sure you and your child are happy and healthy during your pregnancy.

Adoptive Families All-Pass the Home Study

The home study is an in-depth interview process that makes sure all adoptive families are ready to raise a child. In order to qualify to be an adoptive family for Adoption Choices of Missouri’s or any other adoption agencies in Missouri, the family must pass their home study. While the exact record of what questions and answers are given during a home study are mostly confidential, you can still learn about some of the details of the requirements to be met during a home study.

 The goal of a home study is to determine if the family is physically, emotionally, and fiscally prepared to adopt a child. The family must pass a criminal background check and make sure there is no history of child abuse or neglect. Their doctor must prove they are physically healthy enough to care for a child as well. A social worker will also ask them questions about their parenting style and personal relationships. Houses that pass home studies also don’t contain hazards for young children. Pets are well-trained and electrical outlets have plastic covers. A family’s home study must also be updated each year, so you know that all the information is up to date. 

You Can Learn About the Adoptive Family

Adoption Choices of Missouri supports open adoptions where the birth parents and adoptive parents can communicate and meet. Before making your final decision about an adoptive family, your adoption caseworker will provide you with in-depth information about the adoptive family. Their religious beliefs, parenting experience, and a short biography are all included no matter which Missouri adoption plan you make. In fact, you can even review the adoptive families that are waiting to adopt. Learning more about the adoptive family can seriously help put your mind at ease! 

After your pregnancy, you can communicate with the family if you choose an open adoption. They can send you pictures and videos of your child living a happy, healthy life. It can be difficult to stop worrying before the adoption has taken place. But once you can relax and see how your child is doing, you may find that you wonder why you were so worried in the first place.

Adoptive Parents Love Children as Much as Birth Parents

It isn’t just birth mothers who worry about adoptive families loving children. Sometimes families with children worry if they will love their adopted child the same way as their non-adopted ones. But time and time again, adoptive families intensely love the children they adopt. No matter who the adoptive family is and no matter the child. The bond between parent and child remains strong in adoptive families. The experience of watching an adoptive child grow up is just like that of watching a biological child grow up. In fact, some adoptive parents were even adopted from adoption agencies as children. They want to give the positive experience they had to a new person.

How to Know that Adoptive Families Will Care for Your Baby

Adoptive families care just as much about their children as birth families do. Although the phrase “giving baby up for adoption” is used, placing a child with an adoptive family isn’t giving up at all. They are thrilled to have the opportunity to parent and statistically have been shown to care deeply about their children. And to be safe, adoptive families also pass a variety of evaluations to make sure they are up to the task. Before and after your pregnancy, you will learn about the adoptive family to answer some of your more specific questions. But no matter what, your child’s adoptive family is happy and ready to take care of your child. Want to see our waiting families or start your adoption plan? Visit our website at Adoption Choices of Missouri today!

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Joshua Boulet Meet the author: Joshua Boulet is an aspiring journalist and writer with a particular fondness for research and social sciences. He loves music, writing, reading, video games and most art, and anything creative he can get his hands on. Boulet believes that there’s too much good stuff out there and not enough time to see it all. He grew up on video games: the classic Sonic the Hedgehog games, Mario Kart, Marvel Ultimate Alliance, and Legend of Zelda. The music of rhythm games led him to an interest in that, and the investigative journalism of Jason Schreier inspired him to discover the importance of journalism as an industry. That interest in developers’ lives led him to an interest in social justice and how the world could maybe be made into a better place. “All this to say, there is certainly a line I can draw between me obsessively playing Sonic the Hedgehog 2 and me interviewing my sociology professor about how to read academic articles. Those surprising through lines fascinate me all the same. At my best, I’m a person who gets to be constantly fascinated by the lives and work of other people.” His favorite quote is from his favorite jazz musician: “A genius is the one most like himself” – Thelonious Monk.