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The Top 5 Things People Get Wrong About Birth Fathers in Missouri Adoptions 

The Top 5 Things People Get Wrong About Birth Fathers in Missouri Adoptions 

As a Birth Father in Missouri, there will be common things or misconceptions that people may have about you. At our local adoption agency in Missouri,  Adoption Choices of Missouri, we have listed the five things people get wrong about birth fathers in Missouri. Learning about these common things will help you as a birth father explain your greatest choice in choosing adoption to people and your child. No matter what people say, know that you, as a birth father, will have the support you need from our adoption agency in Missouri and as an important person in your child’s life. 


  • A Birth Father Does Not Want to be involved in the Child’s Life

This is a common misconception about birth fathers in Missouri that people may have. However, many birth fathers want to be involved in their child’s life to provide their child with all the support, love, and advice they may need. As a birth father, your child might be happy to know you as an important part of their adoption story. Being involved in your child’s life will help grow a bond that your child will cherish. 


  • A Birth Father Who Did Not Support the Choice of Adoption 

Adoption can be a hard choice to understand for some people in your life, but a decision like this is made out of pure love for your child. This common misconception is wrong, as most birth fathers come to understand the beautiful choice of adoption and want to give their child the best chance at a better life than they can. Now, my baby’s birth father was present and supported me through the adoption process by helping me pick our child’s adoptive family, helping me choose the type of adoption–open adoption fit us the best, and choosing to come to all his child’s big moments in life.

  • A Birth Father Who Does Not Love His Child

As a birth father, you may hear the common phrase that you did not love your child even from the people around you. This phrase may be due to people’s misconception about birth fathers in Missouri not loving their child and leaving him or her. However, as a birth father, you will love your child and will have a special bond with them as the months and years go by because no matter what, your child will appreciate the memories they create with you.  


  • A Birth Father Who Struggles with Mental Illness 

As a birth father who may be struggling with mental illness, people may think you are unfit to be a parent. However, know that you are taking steps to get better as a birth father and that you are no less of a birth father just because you struggle with something. No matter what anyone says, you will always be a birth father who loves and wants their child’s best. 


  • A Birth Father Who Is Not With the Birth Mother 

Having a relationship with your child’s birth mother may be tricky, and that’s okay. As a birth father who may not be with your child’s birth mother for reasons unknown, people may wonder and ask this question a lot. Now, you as a birth father may choose to answer this question any way you feel comfortable. This misconception may not necessarily be true, as many birth parents might work together peacefully for the sake of their child.


  • A Birth Father Who may Not Visit or Call

 Being a birth father and getting to know your child is so important. There is a common misconception that a birth father may not want to call or visit their child. However, this is not always the case, as most birth fathers might be happy to call or visit their child. Weekly or monthly video calls, in-person visits, and even letters might make your child feel closer to you; let them know you care about them and want to get to know them better. Having open communication with your birth child is such an important aspect of your adoption process, as it lets your child know that they have an extra person to come to if they need it. 

Advice to Birth Fathers During the Adoption Process

Remember, as a birth father, our agency, Adoption Choices of Missouri, will be here to help you answer these common misconceptions that people may have for you. We will make sure you have the tools to answer these questions most positively so that people may understand your adoption choice. As a birth father, you may always get these things asked or assumed but, know that you as a birth father can help change the minds of people and other birth fathers regarding the difficult but great choice of adoption. Our adoption agency in Missouri will be here to help you throughout all the common things people may wonder about you as a birth father because you matter. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Samara Wiley is a published author of poetry, essays, and an environmental children’s storybook called, Waiting for the Water Fairy. She graduated from Benedictine University in 2018 with a double Bachelor of Arts in English Literature and French. She has been published in three small poetry anthologies one was called Talented.

Her other writing accomplishments include: winning a high school poetry competition and $2500 for her high school, having two out of her five novels be considered for publication, and writing movie critic reviews for her university’s newsletter.

Although she has Cerebral Palsy and has had a turbulent childhood, Samara puts these small specs of herself into her writing to personally connect with her audience. She prides herself on pushing the boundaries in her writing and in her personal life with everything she does. Samara writes with her heart and a voice of compassion and loves to pull from her top passions in life.

She currently lives in Yorkville, Illinois with her mom and two sisters.