Single Parent Adoption Success Story

Birth mothers know that when selecting the best family to adopt their baby, there are many options. All of these have their own pros and cons, and need to be carefully researched. This will help you see which type of adoption best fits the life you want for you and your baby.

Adoption Choices of Kansas wants to highlight the story of a woman named Monica. Her adoption journey illustrates single parent adoption success.

Monica’s Story

Monica is a 34-year-old woman. She has been trying to have a child for 18 months. She tried via a donor, but without success. When she was looking into her other options, she found adoption and began to start a journey that changed her life forever.

She knew that being a single adoptive mother would be difficult, but she was motivated and wanted to become a parent more than anything. So, she took her decision seriously. She thought through everything and became serious about her finances. She saved up her money and created an adoptive parent profile.

Many birth mothers rejected her, but she still didn’t give up. She had come too far and truly believed her adoption story would be successful. When her attorney showed her picture to a birth mother who was rejecting many other adoptive parents, Monica had 2.5 out of 3 traits on the birth mother’s criteria list. The birth mother decided that Monica would be the best fit for her baby. Monica could not contain her excitement! She agreed to meet her potential child’s birth mother and got along with her right away. Then, nine months later — she met her baby — her beautiful and healthy boy.

Monica knew that her son would have questions as he grew older, and she was ready to tackle those when the appropriate time came. She and her son’s birth mother agreed to a semi-open adoption, which allowed Monica to send pictures, letters and updates through a secure, confidential portal called ChildConnect.

Why is Monica’s Story Successful?

What makes Monica’s story a single parent adoption success is that she never gave up. No matter what she faced, she persevered and followed her dreams to parenthood. If you are a birth mother considering placing your baby with a single adoptive parent, know that this is a wonderful decision! Single adoptives are extremely dedicated, loving and often more financially stable and fully committed to the adoption journey.

Single Parent Adoption Works!

Single parents can succeed in raising your child, and Monica’s story is proof! Single parents genuinely care about your child. Any single mom or dad would be incredibly lucky to adopt your baby! The next single parent adoption success story could be about your adoption! Remember to please see the links below on Monica’s story, along with a list of things to know about single parent adoption.

Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouriserves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 1-877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at (816) 527-9800; in Kansas call or text us at (316) 209 2071

Meet the Author: Jason Legasse is a rising senior English major studying at Siena Collegein Loudonville, New York. He hails from the Albany, New York area, but has plans to relocate to sunny Venice, Florida with his mom come Fall. After completing his bachelor’s degree, Jason plans to study General Special Education at Meredith College, where he will earn a Master’s degree and use that to teach middle school Special Education.

Jason is a self-proclaimed introvert with Asperger’s who really enjoys writing. He has a huge passion for helping others, specifically those with disabilities. He is very excited to be working with Adoption Choices over the summer, and looks forward to learning more about the adoption process!

References

http://www.choicemoms.org/monica_my_adoption_story/
https://www.adoptionchoices.org/5-things-know-single-parent-adoption/

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Single Parent Adoption Success Story

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Single Parent Adoption Success Story

For the month of July, Adoption Choices of Missouri will be focusing on adoption stories. This week, we will be discussing single parent adoption success and what that means. Until recently, single parent adoption was quite uncommon and has been framed in negativity in the past. Our society has held to the stereotype that a child needs two parents. However, single women and men have shown in recent decades that they are just as successful to be parents.

It is important to note that no one is perfect and everyone has a different definition of “success.” Being a single parent of an adopted child is a unique experience that is both rewarding and challenging. Having a strong support system as a single parent is essential and can help with one’s adoption journey. What does single parent adoption success look like? What does one need to consider before adopting as a single parent? Let’s find out.

Why Single Parents Want to Adopt

Single parents, like married couples, desire to adopt a child and have a family. He or she is prepared to take on the role of parenthood, and nurture and love a child in a secure, healthy environment. A single parent can provide for a child physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially. Studies have proven that a single parent is often more emotionally and financially stable, and can give their child a fulfilling life.

What to Acknowledge before Single Parent Adoption

A successful single parent hasn’t taken the choice to adopt lightly. They’ve carefully thought through this life-changing decision. This is extremely vital to the process, and an adoption professional will want to know that you are being honest with yourself. That you fully understand the commitment of raising a child. For instance, knowing how to deal with the challenges from societal perspectives and pressures of being a single parent.

It can be helpful for both you to learn the experiences of other single parents, and ensure that you have a support system around you in the good times and bad. You should remember that you do not have to go through any of your adoption journey alone. Achieving single parent adoption success comes with help from others who value your child’s life and your well-being. It is also important to reflect before becoming a single parent of an adoptee and realize that everything you do for your child is in his or her best interest.

Growing and being Successful as a Single Adoptive Parent

To thrive as a single adoptive parent, remember to take care of yourself. Self-care is beneficial for yourself and will help you maintain a balanced mindset to provide the best life for your child. This will carry through the more challenging moments where you feel overwhelmed and doubtful. Surround yourself with people who are not judgmental, but who encourage and inspire you. Who spark your confidence and sense of independence. These two positive characteristics can, in turn, teach your child and help them establish a strong sense of self.

Take one thing at a time. Know that you can and will get over hurdles that adoptive parenthood presents. Stay motivated. Rely on your trustworthy support system and remember that the environment you create as a single parent will stay with your child forever. So, make sure your home is happy, healthy, safe and promotes success.

Furthermore, know that your role as a single adoptive parent does not end once your child is grown up. Your responsibilities may change and manifest in different ways, but you are still a parent and the same person who decided to start a family.

Single Adoptive Parents

Single parent adoption success shows that single parents can provide stability for their child, and that the child can have the best life possible — as much as he or she would in a two-parent family. Adoption Choices of Missouri celebrates single adoptive parents and believes that they deserve the chance to raise families.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Melissa Benedek is currently a junior at Bard College in Annandale-on-Hudson, New York. She is a Literature major with interest in American regional writing. One of her on-campus jobs focuses on organizing volunteer opportunities with local partnerships for students. She is also a founding editor of Sonnet Literary Magazine based out of her college campus.

When not focused on academics, Melissa enjoys traveling into New York City to support independent bookstores and buy the best cookies at Levain Bakery.

Sources:

https://www.adoptionstogether.org/adopting/single-parent-adoption/

https://www.parents.com/parenting/dynamics/single-parenting/surviving-and-thriving-as-a-single-mom/