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Missouri Adoption Support Through the Holidays

Missouri Adoption Support Through the Holidays

By Mitchell Kennis

To some birth mothers, the holidays can represent an unfriendly reminder of family. Unfriendly in that they are in the process of adoption, which means helping build a family outside their own. It is understandable to feel a fissure between your happiness and pregnancy, but there are ways of overcoming that distance. Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond. Please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri, call or text us at 816-527-9800

You’re not a Grinch, You’re a Birth Mother

Expectant women who are unprepared for parenthood find their way to a certain mindset. Usually, this is something akin to “I’m considering adoption – I can’t take care of my baby.” This pattern of thinking can evolve to “giving my baby up” for adoption, making yourself an enemy in the process. We want to let you know that choosing adoption is one of the bravest things you can do.

When you put my baby up for adoption, you are actually forming the best solution to a somewhat difficult situation. Your pregnancy, perhaps, was one you were not ready in your life to proceed with, not to keep yourself anyway. To stay with your pregnancy for the sake of your baby and have a life with another family is incredibly selfless. You are getting something out of it by not raising the child yourself, but you are giving so much more.

What we’re trying to say here is adoption has some pretty bad misconceptions. It sometimes makes birth mothers out to be women in it for themselves. Know that you are appreciated, and your adoption is going to create a very happy family. Which is possibly the best Christmas present anyone could ask for.

The Adoption Process and Holly Cheer

The days growing shorter, and the festive car commercials are not doing you any favors. You say, “I chose to adopt out my baby but wish the process didn’t make me feel a bit empty.” And yes, the holidays can be a hard time for pregnancies in general. It’s a bummer to forgo a new years party for another person, even if it is your baby. 

Making you feel alone is not what adoption is about, though. It can be a byproduct because of how adoption works, but the process, in general, is meant to reward. It rewards the adoptive parents with a new child they couldn’t have themselves. It rewards adoption agencies in Missouri with the satisfaction of another family pairing. Most importantly, it rewards you by supporting you through an unwanted pregnancy, no matter your circumstances.

It is the word “support” that is really important here. Despite how the holidays are making you feel, know that adoption isn’t something you have to face alone.

Holiday Missouri Adoption Support

Even if you’re in a private adoption or days away from your birth, your adoption agency is here for you. It’s surprising how under-utilized agency resources are, and Adoption Choices of Missouri is open 24/7 for calls and appointments. So, if you are feeling a little lost this holiday season consider one of these forms of support.

  • Therapy

The most direct way to get in touch with your holiday gloom is to talk it out. It can also be difficult to find someone who really relates to your situation in your life. Our agency offers consultations with adoption therapists who can provide such an ear. You will need to first set up a time to meet and provide some idea of what you’re looking for. It helps if your counselor knows the emotional triggers or effects you are aware of once you get to speak it out loud though you might get to the problem quicker.

  • Adoption Hotline

If you need to speak to someone right away, there is also our pregnancy hotline. You are almost guaranteed to have someone on the line minutes after calling. From there, we will be able to direct you to our other resources. Our adoption specialists can even just help reassure you that the process is going perfectly well.  

  • Birth Mother Blog

Maybe you are looking more to answer your questions and concerns about adoption with some reading. Instead of heading to the library, you can always click over to our blog. We have dozens of articles on all sorts of subjects surrounding adoption and its complications. Who knows, maybe the words of wisdom you are looking for were already posted in one.

Don’t be Afraid to Ask for Help through the Missouri Adoption Process

If, despite the lights and goodwill, you are feeling down about your adoption process, you should consider reaching out. Start by talking with your family or friends if you’d like. Or you can find us at Adoption Choices of Missouri, ready to help whenever you need. Our holiday hours are nearly unaltered to make sure we’re here for you.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800