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Life For Birth Parents After Adoption

Life For Birth Parents After Adoption

By David Seamonson

Whether planned or not, you continue to live your life when you have a baby. Life could have had a child in it for you if you did not come to an adoption agency, but your choice has led you down a path where you can figure out what was missing in your life. Of course, life after adoption will be a little different, and it might bring up cases where you want to take back your decision. But, in the end, you are in a place where you can move on and find what you need to before having another child or starting a family.

Understanding the Adoption Process

To understand the adoption process, you should know what steps are involved. Knowing what the adoption process is, what types of adoption there are, what private adoption service is available, and how to finalize an adoption plan are all important.

The first step in the adoption process is discussing the type of adoption that suits you. When you first come to an adoption agency, you should know what kind of adoption they specialize in. For example, Adoption Choices of Missouri specializes in an open and semi-open adoption. It does not mean that they do not do closed adoption. It means that they prefer to help you in one of the easiest ways that they know how, by giving you the chance to still be able to see your baby in the future.

The private adoption options are open adoption, semi-open adoption, and closed adoption. A closed adoption will make it so that you will not be able to see or be involved in your child’s life again, which can harm your mental health. These options are available to you so you can do what feels comfortable for you as you move forward after adoption.

The next step is selecting the family. Again, you will have access to the resources of adoption specialists, and you will have a family that will allow you to have the adoption choice you choose. This will be the finalization of the adoption plan.

Life Continues After Adoption

What happens after your adoption plan is set? You can still access all of the resources given to you during the adoption process. There is also financial help that can be worked into the adoption plan so that you can comfortably care for yourself and your baby. This does not change as the time goes on after the adoption plan is set or if you give birth. In addition, you will have access to many experts with you at each step.

Life after an adoption is difficult shortly after you give birth. You do not have a responsibility for a baby anymore, and that weight is off your shoulders, but there is still a sense of loss. The best way to look at it is to think about what your life would have looked like with that baby and what it looks like now. Can you see yourself successful in five years? Taking care of a baby is stressful, can cause sleepless nights, and can distract from your life. The best way to prepare for the future is to feel comfortable with yourself. To do this, you gave up what could have been and allowed yourself to pursue what can make you happy.

Our Adoption Counselors are Here to Help

The resources that are available to you are all there. This includes access to counselors after the adoption plan is set in stone. Many birth mothers will face thoughts of what could have been if they had kept their child. If you are facing thoughts like this and are feeling regret, sadness, depression, or don’t know how to feel, our experts are here to help you move on and past this hurdle. They are there to listen, not to persuade you to any conclusions. We want you to be happy in your decision, not forced.

Life After The Adoption Process

Life will not always be sunshine and rainbows. That is why adoption agencies like Adoption Choices of Missouri contain many adoption specialists that will help you through difficult times and emotions. We give you access to all of our resources so that when the entire process is completed, you will be able to live the life that allows you to pursue your dreams, create a family, and move on.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond. Please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri, call or text us at 816-527-9800.