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Will My Local Adoption Agencies in Missouri Provide Counseling or Therapy for Me?

Will My Local Adoption Agencies in Missouri Provide Counseling or Therapy for Me?

Suffering from mental disorders is a human trait that millions of people suffer from every day, including those part of the adoption process. There are even mental disorders that birth mothers suffer from during their pregnancy caused by just being pregnant such as postpartum depression. Then if you are putting your baby up for adoption due to an unplanned pregnancy, you can still suffer from postpartum or, more often, “post-placement depression.” As an agency, we will never understand what you are going through mentally, but we are here for you and can assist you with such mental setbacks. 

We are a local adoption agency in Missouri helping birth mothers who are considering giving their baby up for adoption. With a qualified license, we have the best adoption service to help those that use our services. 

I am putting my baby up for adoption, but I suffer from body dysmorphia. Can I get help from my adoption agency?

If you suffered from a mental disorder prior to becoming pregnant during your pregnancy, you would have to face the same hardships. During pregnancy, a woman usually glows, which you will as well, but mentally you might be suffering. Body dysmorphia is a common mental disorder that many members of society are not familiar with, including your family members probably. If they are not aware, we understand if you are nervous to tell them, but support is a factor that plays a part in helping you fight such a disorder. We can support you more than enough as your adoption agency. If you need to explain what Body dysmorphia is to anyone, tell them it is a mental disorder that affects your outlook of how you view your body. For example, instead of seeing your body as a beautiful temple, you notice a flaw in your weight. Eventually, you become obsessive over it, which can cause you to become extremely sick due to lack of intake. 

First, we would like to say you are beautiful the way you are, and our words might not mean much, but it is the truth. We will never judge you based upon your appearance, and your outside is as beautiful as your insides. Since you are pregnant, it is extremely important that you receive help for such a mental disorder when it pertains to your pregnancy. As a pregnant woman, you are not only feeding yourself but your baby as well, which makes you “feeding for two,” as people like to say. Nutrition is a must, but as your adoption agency, we understand dealing with body dysmorphia is a process, and it is already noble that you notified us of such. To be clear, we can definitely provide you with therapy in the form of dealing and coping with your mental disorder. Unfortunately, there is no cure, so it all weighs down on you to face and confront your disorder head-on during and after your adoption process. We can support you during your entire pregnancy with therapy free of charge. 

Can I receive post-placement therapy from my adoption agency after my baby is born?

Absolutely. Adoption Choices of Missouri has witnessed many cases of birth mothers facing mental setbacks due to their baby no longer being in their care. It is normal because your baby has been in your womb for nine months, and you have built a bond with them. Feeling the kicks and knowing a human being is actually growing inside of you will induce feelings. It is a beautiful sight, but when your baby is born, you come to realize that your child will not be in your care when it dawns upon you. Don’t feel worthless or like a bad mom because you made the best decision for your baby, which is honorable of you. 

If you decide to take advantage of our services, you can seek therapy from us without any cost to us at all. Post-placement depression can be triggered at any moment during your life, right after your baby is born, weeks or months later, or a year later. There is no timestamp which is why we are open to offering therapy at any point in time. 

As An Adoption Agency in Missouri, We Can Help You During Your Unplanned Pregnancy

We can support and assist if you are a teen, young adult, or older adult. During a time of need, if you are planning to put your baby up for adoption, we have a multitude of offered services that come in different forms. If you have any questions or concerns about adoption in MO, call us, text, or message us through our portal. We have a 24/7 service time loop which means you will have an answer in less than a couple of hours. Come to us and become part of our family!

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

ImaniMeet the Author: Imani Agbionu is a recent graduate from George Mason University, earning her Bachelor of Science in Marketing. With a history in writing for her former university’s online publication, Her Campus, she aspires to become a successful journalist who can provide for herself and her family. She is from Washington, DC, where she has lived her whole life, but one day wants to move to experience and call another state home. Her mother is from Washington, DC, and her father is from Nigeria, part of the Igbo tribe. As an introvert, she loves streaming platforms, with her favorites being HBO Max, Netflix, and Disney+. Unfortunately, she can’t pick one due to all playing a vital role in her life on a daily basis. She enjoys reading, with her favorite book being The Shining by Stephen King, which she sees as unusual since she is a fearful person that avoids horror at all costs. Listening to music is a vital mechanism that helps her stay calm and deal with her anxiety at times. As an inspiring Journalist, she likes to write about a plethora of topics that some may look at as controversial, but she believes in staying true to herself. She doesn’t mind having conversations with people as long as opinions are being respected.

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After Giving a Baby Up for Adoption in MO, Will I Ever Get to See Them?

After Giving a Baby Up for Adoption in MO, Will I Ever Get to See Them?

First and foremost, giving a baby up for adoption does not mean you are “giving up” on your baby. Instead, this means that you are looking to give your little one a chance for a better life. As an agency, we often have to remind birth mothers to avoid saying such a talking point because it demeans them. A common question from birth mothers is, After giving my baby up for adoption in MO, will I ever get to see them? The answer comes down to which type of adoption you choose when putting your baby up for adoption. There are three types of adoption plans in Missouri that you pick from: closed, semi-open, and open. Adoption in Missouri is a thorough process with multiple adoption agencies available to assist. But, if you are looking for adoption agencies in Missouri that care and show support for those that come to them, come to us, Adoption Choices of Missouri

We are a private adoption agency located in Missouri with multiple sectors around the United States. With a specific presence in Missouri, we can help local birth mothers who are putting their baby up for adoption. With a satisfying rate of adoption, we can help you answer the most vital questions you have regarding your unborn child during and after the adoption process.  

What are three different types of adoption? 

When you decide to put your baby up for adoption, it is important to know the three different types of adoption plans. They all have different attributes, and as your adoption agency, we can definitely make sure you know the differences between each. 

If you are looking to have a relationship with the adoptive parents after your child is placed in their care. There is an adoption plan you can choose: open adoption. As said before, it is important for you to know the differences between all three. 

  • Closed Adoption: The form of adoption utilizes a more private service. As the birth mother, you have the right to choose who adopts your unborn baby. But, if you would like us to choose we are more than welcome to, and we will make the best decision. You should know if you choose the family, there will be limited information on said family. Their address will not be given to you on the parent profile we provide you with, and neither will their last name. Also, during the Missouri adoption process of the adoption, you will never have any contact with the adoptive family with your prescribed counselor doing such. Your counselor will be the third party that communicates information between the other two parties, yourself and the adoptive family. This is considered a sealed adoption which means the courts only have all the information needed pertaining to both parties. After your baby is born and in the care of their adoptive parents, there shall not be any contact. The adoptive parents are allowed to send you pictures or updates of your baby through your counselor. Though by law, they are not obligated to do such due to the nature of the type of adoption you chose. 
  • Semi-Open Adoption: A type of adoption that takes from the other two types of adoption plans. Limited information is shared with the adoptive family, and it is considered a concealed adoption as well. Though meetings can be from different times in face between yourself and your baby’s adoptive family, it is rare. We want you to feel comfortable as much as possible. After your baby is born, there shall be contact in place, but through your assigned adoption counselor, who is the third party. It may come a time when the adoptee may contact you directly through different forms: email, text, call, or more. When it comes to a relationship with your baby, that will not happen until the child is of age to make their own decisions. 
  • Open Adoption: As an adoption plan is the complete opposite of closed adoption, open adoption has more detail and freedom. Like the others as the birth mother, you are able to choose the family that adopts your baby. As a plan on the rise that most birth mothers implement, we are not surprised this would be your adoption plan. The adoptive parents’ information in the parent profile will be available, including their numbers, emails, addresses, and even last names. From that point on, you and the adoptive family will have face-to-face meetings in person with a third party there to facilitate, such as the counselor. Open adoption can be more prevalent than explained, with much more information and meetings taking place. After the baby is born, you will still have contact with the family with up-to-date information pertaining to such. 

Choosing the type of adoption you want may be hard, but it is still beautiful. It is even more beautiful when you meet those who want to raise and love your baby.

Can I get my baby back after relinquishing my rights as the birth mother? 

We understand that with your baby now in the custody of another family may be hard. After relinquishing your rights, you can not have that child back in your custody. The child is now in the care of their adoptive parents, and your rights have been suspended. 

If you are suffering the mental strain of coming to terms with your baby not being in your care, we suggest you utilize our services. We offer post-placement therapy that can be of great use to you. There is nothing wrong with loving your child, and having this doubt and regret is normal, so you shouldn’t feel depressed about it. You did not fail your baby at all. 

Come to Us if You are in Need of Pregnant Adoption Help

If you are dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, you can come to us. With a lack of options besides terminating the pregnancy, you can put your baby up for adoption without help. We answer questions and concerns you have with care and love. We understand the stigma surrounding adoption and the way mothers are judged every day due to such. Instead, we decide to tell you to ignore such and know you are giving your baby a better life. To add on, you are helping build a family. If you would like to contact us, you can do so by text, call, or through our portal. We would love to help and have served many birth mothers here in Missouri! With an operation that runs 24/7, you will not have to wait a large sum of time to receive a response from us!  

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

ImaniMeet the Author: Imani Agbionu is a recent graduate from George Mason University, earning her Bachelor of Science in Marketing. With a history in writing for her former university’s online publication, Her Campus, she aspires to become a successful journalist who can provide for herself and her family. She is from Washington, DC, where she has lived her whole life, but one day wants to move to experience and call another state home. Her mother is from Washington, DC, and her father is from Nigeria, part of the Igbo tribe. As an introvert, she loves streaming platforms, with her favorites being HBO Max, Netflix, and Disney+. Unfortunately, she can’t pick one due to all playing a vital role in her life on a daily basis. She enjoys reading, with her favorite book being The Shining by Stephen King, which she sees as unusual since she is a fearful person that avoids horror at all costs. Listening to music is a vital mechanism that helps her stay calm and deal with her anxiety at times.
As an inspiring Journalist, she likes to write about a plethora of topics that some may look at as controversial, but she believes in staying true to herself. She doesn’t mind having conversations with people as long as opinions are being respected.

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Post-Placement Counseling and Birth Mother Support

Post-Placement Counseling and Birth Mother Support

The adoption process can be a longstanding process that takes excessive time and attention. As the birth mother, though you are putting your baby up for adoption, you might form a bond with your unborn child. As a mother, you are carrying your child for nine months, and during that time, you feel your baby kicking, moving, and more. At times you might speak to the baby, which doctors have claimed babies can hear even when in the womb. It is amazing, and over the course of the adoption, you might be questioning your decision to put your baby up for adoption. But, you know that you can’t provide your child with the life and luxury they deserve including you probably have little to no support. Even though you have a bond with your baby, you want not to be selfish and go along with the adoption instead of ending it.  That is noble, we at will say, as a private adoption agency, we want to be honest about the struggles you may endure due to such. While pregnant, we can provide you support if you choose to utilize our adoption services, but those around you should do the same. Including family, friends, and possibly a lover if you have one. To add on, you may suffer from mental strains due to your child’s adoption, and we definitely provide help for such. Our goal is to have your adoption go smoothly and you to be mentally healthy once your baby is no longer in your care. 

Why Do I Feel Depressed After My Baby is Now in the Custody of Their Adoptive Parents? 

We have witnessed this happen to multiple birth mothers that have put their babies up for adoption. You are not the only one and shouldn’t feel left out or like the only one. To explain what you are going through, it is called post-placement depression, which is when as a mother, you feel a sense of regret and low self-esteem due to putting your baby up for adoption. Now that the baby is no longer in your care, you feel like you gave up on your baby, and you feel extremely depressed. Adoption Choices of Missouri wants you to know that you did not give up on your baby at all. You provided them with a better life due to the circumstances of your own life. The baby wasn’t planned, and instead of seeking termination, which we would not judge you for, you decided to keep the child. Just know your baby is thriving and having a great life that you gave them and will embark on a great journey with the necessary resources!  As an adoption agency, we offer therapy with expenses covered in response to the mental health struggles. Know you can come to us at any point because we know such struggles can develop right after your child is within the custody of their adoptive parents. Or, it can be months or years later, and we will still be present. Never hesitate just because you feel embarrassed about struggling mentally. Many people misconstrue that pain can only be physical, but mental health is just as important and affects millions each year, including birth mothers.  

What Are Ways I Can Be Supported By My Family After My Adoption Process is Over? 

Families play a major role in the progression of someone’s mental state, so know when you are around them, make sure there is nothing but a positive aura around. But, there are multiple ways your family and friends can support you. 

  1. They can attend your therapy session with you to have an understanding of the way you feel more thoroughly. 
  2. During their free time as friends and family, they can regularly seek to talk to you and listen to your issues besides attending therapy sessions. 
  3. When present, they should reassure you that you did not give up on your baby just as much as we would do as your adoption agency. 
  4. They can understand the adoption process and its delicate nature by doing research of their own.  
  5. To add on, when you receive contact from your baby’s adoptive family, they can be present. Such a time can be sentimental and evolve in your emotions being affected again. Having someone there that you can lean on and speak to would be amazing. 

If You Are Seeking Post-Placement Counseling, We Are Here to Help  

As a licensed adoption agency in Missouri, we are here to assist you as a birth mother and build families. We understand that you might be hesitant due to the stigma surrounding the term adoption in general. But, we are trying to end that said stigma and show people adoption is a beautiful process. If you are adamant about putting your unborn baby up for adoption, you can contact us through a phone call, text, or message us through our portal. We will get back in contact with you as soon as possible with our 24 hours a day service and open seven days a week.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

Imani

Meet the Author: Imani Agbionu is a recent graduate from George Mason University, earning her Bachelor of Science in Marketing. With a history in writing for her former university’s online publication, Her Campus, she aspires to become a successful journalist who can provide for herself and her family. She is from Washington, DC, where she has lived her whole life, but one day wants to move to experience and call another state home. Her mother is from Washington, DC, and her father is from Nigeria, part of the Igbo tribe. As an introvert, she loves streaming platforms, with her favorites being HBO Max, Netflix, and Disney+. Unfortunately, she can’t pick one due to all playing a vital role in her life on a daily basis. She enjoys reading, with her favorite book being The Shining by Stephen King, which she sees as unusual since she is a fearful person that avoids horror at all costs. Listening to music is a vital mechanism that helps her stay calm and deal with her anxiety at times. As an inspiring Journalist, she likes to write about a plethora of topics that some may look at as controversial, but she believes in staying true to herself. She doesn’t mind having conversations with people as long as opinions are being respected.

 

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Why choose adoption in Missouri? 

Why choose adoption in Missouri? 

Adoption is a beautiful process that has been practiced and utilized for years. If you don’t know, adoption is when a child is legally put into the care of another family. That child will then be raised as their own and call their new adoptive parents mom and dad. In most cases, the adopted child has no relation to the adoptive parent and are different in the race. Still, that is what makes adoption beautiful. A family wants to adopt a child without any preferences to give them love, health, and a beautiful future.  

As birth mothers, we understand that that might sound beautiful, but it will be different once the process begins. That is true, but our adoption process is thorough at Adoption Choices of Missouri with loving staff to support you. Also, as an adoption agency in Missouri, we serve birth mothers or adoptive parents seeking adoption with love and grace. As we always say, we want to build families with the babies being our top priority. 

While doing so, we want to end the stigma that affects birth mothers such as yourself every day. There is a negative connotation surrounding adoption in MO, but we have witnessed the good and the bad as an agency, so we understand. But, we want those looking from the outside to not have one scenario broadcasted on TV surrounding neglectful adoptive parents to be the poster of adoption. Due to the stigma, certain birth mothers, including you, may question if adoption is a choice regarding your unplanned pregnancy

Is the adoption process long in Missouri? 

We have a thorough laid-out adoption plan for each birth mother that comes to us. That is why you shouldn’t have any concerns regarding the process at all. As your selection adoption agency, our priority is your health as well. If your health deteriorates due to the stress of the adoption process, then it can affect your unborn baby. We don’t want that at all. We want you as healthy as you can be! The process is at a steady pace, but you play a vital role in the progression of the adoption.

 

  • Step 1: If you face an unplanned pregnancy and think about choosing adoption instead of terminating your pregnancy, come to Adoption Choices of Missouri. We will answer any questions you have and provide you with help if you decide to utilize our services. Contact as soon as possible to begin the process of adoption. 
  • Step 2: From there, you will have a meeting with a chosen caseworker that will be in charge of your adoption. Your case can come to you, or you can come to us in our facility based upon your location. 
  • Step 3: Of course, in any process, you have to fill out paperwork, so since this is a delicate process, you will be provided such to sign. Also, before your paper is given to you for protection reasons, we will need documentation proving you are pregnant. 
  • Step 4: If you are in need of financial and medical assistance, we can help with that. We want you healthy, so if you don’t have a frequent doctor at that point, we can provide you with one. 
  • Step 5: Based upon the preferences you have given us on the family you want to adopt your child, we will provide you parent profiles. They will consist of different families that will potentially adopt your unborn child. If you are not in support or pick any of the families, we can definitely provide you with more. 
  • Step 6: If needed, we can provide you with housing with expenses covered during the duration of the adoption process
  • Step 7: Depending on the type of adoption you choose: closed, semi-closed, or open adoption, you will have a conference with the adoptive family of your child. It can be in person or solely through your caseworker. 
  • Step 8: As your pregnancy prolongs, so will the adoption process. During the course of such, you will have to keep in contact with us as your adoption agency. Also, keep up with your doctor’s appointments. 
  • Step 9: Once your due date arrives, your caseworker will be there by your side for support and to follow your birth plan. We will make sure the hospital validates your wants and needs. 
  • Step 10: After birth, your baby will be given to the adoptive family, and they shall take them home. Then a court date will arrive where you will give up parental rights. 
  • Step 11: Based upon the type of adoption you picked as the birth mother, you and the adoptive family will continue to have contact. Six weeks after the birth of your baby, expenses shall end. 

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and are doubting about choosing adoption, know the process is not hard or stressful. Adoption Choices of Missouri is a great agency that will support you while answering all the questions and concerns you have. 

Choose Adoption, and We Will Support You 

We are a private agency with credentials in adoption and have participated in multiple adoption cases. If you are contemplating adoption, contact us as soon as possible to ask us any questions or more! You can contact us through our website or by phone through text and phone calls. We are available seven days a week and 24 hours a day, meaning there is no rush at all!

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

ImaniMeet the Author: Imani Agbionu is a recent graduate from George Mason University, earning her Bachelor of Science in Marketing. With a history in writing for her former university’s online publication, Her Campus, she aspires to become a successful journalist who can provide for herself and her family. She is from Washington, DC, where she has lived her whole life, but one day wants to move to experience and call another state home. Her mother is from Washington, DC, and her father is from Nigeria, part of the Igbo tribe. As an introvert, she loves streaming platforms, with her favorites being HBO Max, Netflix, and Disney+. Unfortunately, she can’t pick one due to all playing a vital role in her life on a daily basis. She enjoys reading, with her favorite book being The Shining by Stephen King, which she sees as unusual since she is a fearful person that avoids horror at all costs. Listening to music is a vital mechanism that helps her stay calm and deal with her anxiety at times. As an inspiring Journalist, she likes to write about a plethora of topics that some may look at as controversial, but she believes in staying true to herself. She doesn’t mind having conversations with people as long as opinions are being respected.

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Adoption Isn’t a Bad Word

Adoption Isn’t a Bad Word

For years since the existence of adoption, people have judged or looked down upon such a word and the adoption process included. It has caused family members, friends, or more to turn against those they claim to love because they don’t agree with their decision. Many feel a child belongs in the care of their parents, not someone else. Such a matter has been depicted on reality TV shows, documentaries, and fictional movies. Due to the judgment, birth mothers may keep their decision of adoption private or raise the baby. When it comes down to after the baby is born, the people that judged you the most are not present. They are against you during a time when you need support the most because they are not in support of you providing your baby a better life. Afterward, they are not against you, but you follow their advice by keeping the baby after there for you. 

As a licensed private adoption agency in Missouri, Adoption Choices of Missouri we want you to know adoption is beautiful. If you are feeling judged and not supported, not only can you come to use the answer to help with the Missouri adoption process. But, also for support, you can connect to us as a staff and other birth mothers. Judgment is hard, and we understand that maybe not from the perspective of adoption but other notions. Those that are judging you are not raising the child, carrying the child, or understanding the exact importance of adoption.  

What is adoption?

Adoption is a thorough and delicate legal process that is practiced in multiple states. It is when a child is taken into care by another family that has no biological relation to them. Through the help of an adoption agency, like ourselves, the court system is the dominating factor in allowing such to happen. After the child is placed within the adoptive family’s care, that will become their mom and dad. It is not an easy process, but it can be greatly smooth and copasetic if you are serious while following your requirements. 

If you are considering adoption, you should know there are three different types of adoption: close, semi-open, and open. They are vital to know because you are to pick which adoption type you want to follow. 

  • Closed Adoption: A private form of adoption that keeps protected both parties, like yourself and the adoptive family. During such a process, you are provided with parent profiles from us based on the preferences you gave us. You have the right to choose the family that you would like to raise. However, the information will be limited while your identity is completely sealed and unknown to those who are adopting your baby. The details you receive about your potential adoptive family are limited. With only their first names present, but their address, last name, and more are concealed. During the process of adoption, there shall not be any contact between either party with your caseworker handling contact between you all. After the baby is born and in the care of their adoptive parents, you will no longer have any contact. Depending on the adoptive parents, they can do so through your caseworker if they would like to send you letters, pictures, and more. But, contact will still not happen between either party. 
  • Semi-Open Adoption: A form of adoption between both types of adoption plans. You are to pick the adoptive family of your baby. Though you will not meet in person, and information pertaining to the family will be very vague. Communication between yourself and the family will be facilitated with the help of your casework. After your child’s birth, you will sustain communication with the adoptive family through different forms of communication. In some cases, based upon the birth mother’s preferences, you can exchange numbers or emails to have better communication.  
  • Open Adoption: The word open definitely explains this type of adoption. Unlike the other two types of adoption, information is exchanged between both parties. As the birth mother, your identity is prevalent, and so is the potential adoptive family which you pick. Names, addresses, and more are given to you. There shall be more communication between you, even in person. However, your caseworker will be present. When the baby is finally born, communication will still be there, and you can even become part of the family depending upon the relationship you two develop. 

Understanding these three adoption plans means you are not a bad person, and adoption is not a dangerous word or process. 

Where Does the Stigma Surrounding the Adoption Process Come From? 

We are not necessarily sure why there is a stigma surrounding adoption, but we do have an understanding. Due to certain high-profile cases that take place on televisions, including an adoptive family, many people look down upon adoption. They use that certain family that committed neglect acts against their adopted child, which we denounce, believing that family is the poster child of all parents seeking adoptions. 

To add on, at certain times, many people believe that regardless of your predicament, you can be poor and suffering, you should raise your child. They feel as if you are giving up on your child, which Adoption Choices of Missouri doesn’t believe to be true. We know unplanned pregnancy takes place every year, and adoption is not giving up on your baby. Also, we do thorough checks on adoptees and more to make sure your child will be safe and loved. 

There are more reasons why people are against adoption, which include race, sexuality, and more. Those are just unnecessary educated people that aren’t worth paying attention to. 

Adoption is Beautiful, and We Want You to Know That 

We are an adoption agency that wants to support you while those around you don’t. At the same time, we want those that doubt and discourage adoption from knowing it is a beautiful process that helps thousands of children a year. As we always say, our goal is to build families, and we have services for birth mothers and seeking to adopt. We love children, and we believe they deserve to live in a healthy environment. With a 24 hours service that is available seven days a week, you contact us through our portal! Another way is by text or calls where you would get the best help from qualified staff members. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

ImaniMeet the Author: Imani Agbionu is a recent graduate from George Mason University, earning her Bachelor of Science in Marketing. With a history in writing for her former university’s online publication, Her Campus, she aspires to become a successful journalist who can provide for herself and her family. She is from Washington, DC, where she has lived her whole life, but one day wants to move to experience and call another state home. Her mother is from Washington, DC, and her father is from Nigeria, part of the Igbo tribe. As an introvert, she loves streaming platforms, with her favorites being HBO Max, Netflix, and Disney+. Unfortunately, she can’t pick one due to all playing a vital role in her life on a daily basis. She enjoys reading, with her favorite book being The Shining by Stephen King, which she sees as unusual since she is a fearful person that avoids horror at all costs. Listening to music is a vital mechanism that helps her stay calm and deal with her anxiety at times. As an inspiring Journalist, she likes to write about a plethora of topics that some may look at as controversial, but she believes in staying true to herself. She doesn’t mind having conversations with people as long as opinions are being respected.

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What is a MO Adoption Plan, and How Do I Get Started?

What is a MO Adoption Plan, and How Do I Get Started?

You may be a current mother that recently found out that you are pregnant with an unplanned baby. Right now, you are weighing your options which are three. You would either terminate your pregnancy instead of giving birth to the current child you are carrying. Or you are contemplating raising the child as your own though there may be struggles during the duration of such. Then there is adoption which you have never experienced and aren’t educated on the adoption process.

As an adoption agency, we completely understand that you have a plethora of questions pertaining to the Missouri adoption process. Many birth mothers come to our agency without much understanding of adoption other than a google search. They are not well versed in the process, the different types of adoption, or the mental capacity that can take place during the adoption.  

Defining an MO Adoption Plan

At our agency, Adoption Choices of Missouri, every decision chosen will be that of the birth mother’s choice. We do not pressure or guilt you as a mother because it is a delicate situation that we can provide you with information on. However, the decisions are yours due to the child biologically belonging to you. When it comes to an adoption plan, every step is yours to choose. An MO adoption plan is a thoroughly designed plot that is written and followed by you during the beginning of your adoption process

In such an adoption plan, you lay out the needs and wants you would like to have as the birth mother. Such as detailing the preferences you would like to see in the adoptive parents of your unborn child. The preferences can be as detailed as you would like depending upon your wants and needs for the sake of your child. Soon after, you will be provided parent profiles by your caseworker. Each family will match your preferences. They might not exactly match your preference in some cases, but it will be a grave deal of similarities. To add on, if you are not in favor of the families we provided, then you shall be provided more from your caseworker. Eventually, you will pick a family and based on the type of adoption you choose: closed, semi-open, or opened. You will or will not have contact with the family during your pregnancy. 

As said above, you will choose the type of adoption you would like to choose. There are three adoption forms we provide: closed, semi-open, and open adoption. After defining all three types of adoptions, you would choose which form you would like to utilize for your adoption in MO. When making such a decision, there has to be communication between yourself and the adoptive family. That is due to the fact they have to agree on the type of adoption you decide to go with. 

There are more talking points when it comes to creating an MO adoption plan. Such as notifying us if you need financial assistance, medical assistance, or therapy. Also, when it comes to communication between yourself and the adoptive family you picked, you will decide the ways in which you all communicate. It can be directly or through a facilitator, which would be your caseworker. Then you have to create the birth plan and handle your delivery wants. 

As your adoption agency, we can assist you in laying out such a plan without making the decisions for you. 

Where Can I Go for Assistance in Adoption in Missouri? 

You can come to us, Adoption Choices of Missouri. We are one of the top private agencies with different sectors in multiple states. We assist birth mothers like yourself, adoptive parents, and unborn or born children. Since you are in Missouri, we have different locations with one agency in Kansas. If you have beginning questions as a birth mother, contact us through our portal on our website or call us. Before coming to our agency, we understand you might have multiple questions you would like answered. 

To add on, if you would like to read any past stories of birth mothers we have assisted, that is no problem. We have stories from multiple birth mothers we have assisted during their adoption process in Missouri on our website. 

Never Hesitate to Contact Us if You Are Facing an Unplanned Pregnancy  

Being pregnant with an unplanned baby is tough, but doing so alone is even harder. Contact us if you are in such a predicament and would like to put your baby up for adoption. We will not hesitate to support you! You will become part of the Adoption Choices of Missouri family. We are building families, including ours. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

ImaniMeet the Author: Imani Agbionu is a recent graduate from George Mason University, earning her Bachelor of Science in Marketing. With a history in writing for her former university’s online publication, Her Campus, she aspires to become a successful journalist who can provide for herself and her family. She is from Washington, DC, where she has lived her whole life, but one day wants to move to experience and call another state home. Her mother is from Washington, DC, and her father is from Nigeria, part of the Igbo tribe. As an introvert, she loves streaming platforms, with her favorites being HBO Max, Netflix, and Disney+. Unfortunately, she can’t pick one due to all playing a vital role in her life on a daily basis. She enjoys reading, with her favorite book being The Shining by Stephen King, which she sees as unusual since she is a fearful person that avoids horror at all costs. Listening to music is a vital mechanism that helps her stay calm and deal with her anxiety at times. As an inspiring Journalist, she likes to write about a plethora of topics that some may look at as controversial, but she believes in staying true to herself. She doesn’t mind having conversations with people as long as opinions are being respected.

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Adoption Choices of Missouri Celebrates National Adoption Month

Adoption Choices Of Missouri Celebrates National Adoption Month 

Adoption is a beautiful process that we at Adoption Choices of Missouri celebrate and participate in every day. We see birth mothers, adoptive parents, and children’s lives change for the better due to such. That is why we are asking you to celebrate National Adoption Month with every adoptee and us in the world beginning on November 1st!  

If you don’t know what adoption is, it is the process of a child being put in custody of a family legally. By going through the courts, a couple or single will become the sole providers of that child and become their parents. Though there might be no relation between that child and family, the child will be loved and taken care of as if they were. Adoption if shown on TV shows, movies, documentaries, and more if you would like to witness it visually. It is beautiful, and we would like you to know that and celebrate it. 

Why Is National Adoption Month Important? 

If you are a birth mother reading this, we would definitely like you to celebrate National Adoption Month! You are a selfless person that decided to give your child a better life than you knew you couldn’t provide them with. Tell people your story of adoption and why you did such. Make them know that you are a great mother that decided to do such because of your predicament. 

This month is important because it brings awareness to adoption and the importance of giving children, who are the future, a better chance at life. Not to mention it attracts attention to our foster care system that has dozens of children that need a family. Birth mothers shouldn’t just celebrate National Adoption Month, but adoptees and adoptive parents should also celebrate such a month. Even society should celebrate it as well to show appreciation and even more induce recognition to adoption. 

What Are Ways To End The Stigma Surrounding Adoption? 

The first way to end the stigma around adoption is to talk to people even when they are defensive. Due to cases that are sometimes covered on major news outlets surrounding adoptive parents and adoptees that involve abuse or more, it damages the image of adoption in MO. As an adoption agency, we understand that, but we also want people to understand that it is not always every adoption case. During the process of adoption, we take it very seriously to keep children safe. The best is to show those people positive adoption cases and even tell them about our adoption agency, including the adoption process. We have positive stories from birth mothers’ perspectives about their adoption experience while dealing with an unplanned pregnancy on our websites. 

You can spread the word of adoption while sending people different resources to understand it before judging it. To add on, you can even donate to an adoption agency where many support birth mothers who we financially assist. Though these actions might not end the stigma surrounding adoption, it is a beginning.  

How To Support Birth Mothers That Have Put Their Baby Up For Adoption? 

Birth mothers are often judged and have negative connotations about themselves due to putting their baby up for adoption. They are sometimes not supported by the father of their child, their parents, friends, or more which mentally affects them. One of the many ways you can support a birth mother is by not judging them. Also, tell them that they are not giving up on their baby because even in society, citizens use those terms against birth mothers. Talk to them to understand their situation and reasons as to why they are choosing adoption. You would be surprised after talking to someone who is actually having to make such a tough decision. 

The main way to show support is by listening and not judging. Those are the two that will help build a birth mothers’ esteem. 

How Can I Explain To My Child That Is A Different Race Than Me That They Are Adopted? 

Love does not discriminate at all, and the child you adopt does not have to be of the same race as you. Such adoption scenarios are depicted in movies and TV shows. Often you see celebrities adopt children that are not of the same race. It is beautiful regardless of the skin differences between yourself and your child. 

There is never an age where a child should find out they are adopted because when they are young, they might not understand. Though as they grow up, they will see the differences between themselves and them. The best way to explain it and make it understandable is by sitting down with your child. While doing so, explain that you two are not biologically related, which can be easier once children know the definition of biology. Explain the definition of adoption and your experience as the adoptive parents. You can do so in a childlike way though it will be a little tough. Tell your child at the end though not biologically related, you love them as much as if they were. 

Join Us By Celebrating National Adoption Month 

If you are a birth mother and reading this, thank you for being an amazing mother. At Adoption Choices of Missouri, we value all mothers and believe you should be celebrated every day of the year. If you have any questions and would like to share your story, contact us! We enjoy bringing more awareness to the Missouri adoption process. 

Also, if you would like support or more, we are open 24/7, and as a licensed private adoption agency, we serve everyone’s needs. Come to us, and you will be satisfied.  

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

ImaniMeet the Author: Imani Agbionu is a recent graduate from George Mason University, earning her Bachelor of Science in Marketing. With a history in writing for her former university’s online publication, Her Campus, she aspires to become a successful journalist who can provide for herself and her family. She is from Washington, DC, where she has lived her whole life, but one day wants to move to experience and call another state home. Her mother is from Washington, DC, and her father is from Nigeria, part of the Igbo tribe. As an introvert, she loves streaming platforms, with her favorites being HBO Max, Netflix, and Disney+. Unfortunately, she can’t pick one due to all playing a vital role in her life on a daily basis. She enjoys reading, with her favorite book being The Shining by Stephen King, which she sees as unusual since she is a fearful person that avoids horror at all costs. Listening to music is a vital mechanism that helps her stay calm and deal with her anxiety at times. As an inspiring Journalist, she likes to write about a plethora of topics that some may look at as controversial, but she believes in staying true to herself. She doesn’t mind having conversations with people as long as opinions are being respected.