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3 Advantages for Adoptees with Adoption in Missouri

3 Advantages for Adoptees with Adoption in Missouri

Adoption Choices of Missouri is a local adoption agency committed to helping and preparing birth mothers for birth. We also serve to help guide birth mothers along the adoption journey and make the adoption process a little easier. Adoption is a wonderful option for an unplanned pregnancy, and it is a gift to other families. There are many out there that are unable to conceive, so you, as a birth mother considering adoption, are like a guardian angel to them, blessing them with a miracle. Our agency has been helping women with their pregnancy journeys for years and has been dedicated to bringing families together, completing them. 

Everyone’s adoption journey is different, and every adoption placement is different. All adoptions are unique to the birth mother and the family adopting. Not everyone is under the same circumstances, which is why we understand that everyone has different wants and needs. There are many advantages for the child that is adopted into a new family. There are ups and downs when it comes to adoption, and it is not always sunshine and happiness with the adoptee and their new family, but it always works out. Let’s talk about the advantages and benefits your child will receive growing up in an adoptive family.

1: Adoptees Receive Unconditional Love & Support

Adoption is very special for adoptive families, and that is because they have a chance to complete or grow their family into something better. Although you choose them, they choose your child. Our adoptive families want nothing less than the best for your child. They will give them an unconditional amount of love, support, and comfort. Do not listen to the stereotypes or stigmas surrounding adoptees and worry about how they might turn out. Your child will flourish in their family. Our families have been screened and have been approved for being the best and healthiest fit to raise a child.

2: More Learning Opportunities

Unlike any other child who lives with the family they were born into, adoptees grow up with an open mind and more learning opportunities. They spend their entire life finding out new things about themselves and where they come from. They end up building on their own experiences and growing into their best self. Adoption provides an endless amount of opportunities for adoptees, and it actually helps them reach their goals. By the time your child becomes an adult, they will have figured out who they are and what they want in life, all because they were adopted into a new family. 

3: Stability

This is one of the biggest advantages for adoptees. Maybe you, the birth mother, we’re unable to provide or give your child the life you know they deserve. You choose adoption in Missouri so that your child can still receive all of those things. Then your child is placed into a happy and healthy environment. They are now in a stable home that can give them all the things you wish for them but was unable to do yourself. Your child will always know why you did what you did and that it was only in their best interest. Knowing that will give them stability and relief in their new home. 

How Adoption Helps All that are Involved in the Process

Adoption in Missouri is empowering for birth mothers and is a miracle for adoptive families. We are not suggesting that you, as the birth mother, do not want your child because we know that is not the case. There is no shame in adoption. In fact, it is a selfless decision made by a birth mother when they realize that they are not capable or simply do not want to raise a child. You are giving your child a chance at life and a good one at that. We know you want them to have the best and most fulfilling life possible, so let us help you start your adoption journey today.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

GabriellaMeet the Author: Gabriella Dobson was born and raised in Ohio. She is currently a senior at Miami University majoring in professional writing with a focus in editing. She also minors in criminology and general business. She is a skilled barista and enjoys sipping her coffee with a good book in her hand. She is passionate about helping others and making a difference in the lives around her. With her involvement in St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital and Women Helping Women, she is able to provide resources for those in need of support.

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3 Tips for Interracial Adoption in Missouri

3 Tips for Interracial Adoption in Missouri

At Adoption Choices of Missouri, we realize how scary an adoption process might seem from the outside looking in. We also understand the birth mother’s hesitations when choosing an adoptive family. When you think about it, you are choosing your child’s entire life before they are even born, and you can decide which family they are raised in. It is natural to be worried about your child’s future, and it is okay to be scared. All the emotions you might be feeling about adoption are reasonable, valid, and common. There are many types of adoption, and there are many ways that birth mothers go about doing their adoption. Each adoption plan is unique to the birth mother and is meant to serve in your best interest. Adoption has many routes, many possibilities, and many outcomes. When going through the adoption process, you will have to make very important decisions. One of those decisions is your child’s adoptive family. Like adoption, families can also come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. A family is a group of people that love and support one another unconditionally. With adoption, blood relation does not matter, it does not make a family. What makes a family is those you feel close to and those you can go to during hard times. Just like blood does not matter, race or ethnicity does not either. Interracial adoption is becoming increasingly popular, and it has proven to have a lot of benefits on adopted children. 

When Entering the Adoption Process Be Open-Minded

The best thing you can do as the birth mother is to have an open mind going into adoption in Missouri. Be open to every possibility and not shut something down just because it does not seem normal at first. You might be surprised at how well children flourish in interracial families and its benefits for their growth. Although it is important to think about what you want, and maybe you already know what you want for your child, keep an open mind so that you can still explore every other possibility.

Talk With Your Adoptive Family

This might sound like a straightforward and common sense kind of thing but talk with the family that could potentially be raising your child. If it is a family not of the same race or ethnic background as you, talk to them about their background. Discuss how their ethnicity will be present in the household and how they plan to raise your child. Do not be afraid to talk outside of your comfort zone because any adoptive family interested in your child will not be afraid to answer your questions. However, do not be pushy or blunt in the conversation. 

Don’t Be Afraid to Ask Questions about the Adoption Process

This is the most important thing you can do and the best tip anyone can give you. Ask questions! Ask us at Adoption Choices of Missouri, ask your birth parent counselor, ask the adoptive family, ask anyone! You will never know what to do or handle a certain situation if you do not ask how to. at our local adoption agency, we do not expect you to go into the adoption process with all the answers and know how the entire process works. It is okay to be a little naive in this case. 

Interracial adoption is nothing short of scary. Adoption itself can be scary, but having your child placed with a family of a different culture than your own, it is understandable to worry about how their life might go. However, we do not want you to worry too much as there are many benefits to interracial adoption, and there are plenty to outweigh the cons. Your child would have the opportunity to grow up in a diverse household and have a stronger mindset. It is important to trust the process and to be open-minded along the way because anything can happen if you give it a chance. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

GabriellaMeet the Author: Gabriella Dobson was born and raised in Ohio. She is currently a senior at Miami University majoring in professional writing with a focus in editing. She also minors in criminology and general business. She is a skilled barista and enjoys sipping her coffee with a good book in her hand. She is passionate about helping others and making a difference in the lives around her. With her involvement in St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital and Women Helping Women, she is able to provide resources for those in need of support.

 

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Counseling and Support Services For Birth Mothers in Missouri

Counseling and Support Services For Birth Mothers in Missouri

Are you experiencing an unplanned pregnancy? Are you worried that you are alone? Do you have a million thoughts running through your mind? Are you looking for pregnant adoption help? Adoption Choices of Missouri wants you to know that you are never alone. We understand what you might be going through, and we want to help. It can be scary, and for new mothers, you might not know what to expect. There might be an overwhelming amount of thoughts and questions in your head right now, and we are here to help answer or alleviate some of your concerns. We understand that putting your baby up for adoption couldn’t have been an easy decision. But, you had to make a decision that was best for you and your baby. We also understand that there can be a lot of overwhelming emotions and that you may need help processing them. Adoption Choices of Missouri can provide counseling and support services for birth mothers who seek help. We can offer a range of different services depending on your needs. Our services include financial support, safe housing, and medical care. 

Counseling Options for Birth Mothers 

Pregnancy can have a huge impact on a lot of birth mothers emotionally, physically, and financially. We have a wonderful support counseling team that wants to provide you with emotional support. They have worked with hundreds of women who are in a similar position to yours. Our involvement is only as much as you want, but we are here during your pregnancy and post-birth. 

There are many types of counseling services that our team can offer. The service you choose should be catered to fit your specific needs. We can provide one-on-one counseling where you can speak confidently to a licensed specialist and receive personal care. We also offer support groups where you can sit with other women who are in the same or similar position to you. Support groups tend to be helpful for those who feel alone throughout their pregnancy and are unsure of what to do next. Hearing from other women can offer a sense of relief that you are doing everything you can. We recommend speaking to a counselor to discover the counseling option best for you. 

Financial Support Services for Adoption in Missouri

As mentioned before, pregnancy can put a lot of pressure or stress on birth mothers emotionally and financially. We at Adoption Choices of Missouri want to ensure that you are able to provide and care for yourself during your pregnancy. The specific needs vary from mother to mother. During pregnancy, your health and nutrition are more important than ever, so we can personally offer birth mothers food stamps, WIC, and grocery expenses. 

There are other options to receive financial assistance as well. In Missouri, it is possible to receive financial support from the adoptive family. Expenses that could be included are rent and utilities, food, transportation, maternity clothing, phone service, groceries. Again, it can be different for every birth mother as everyone is in a different situation. 

Receiving Medical Care and Financial Assistance

As an expectant mother, receiving the best and consistent medical care is very important. If you are in need of financial assistance, Adoption Choices of Missouri can assist birth mothers in applying for Medicaid. We want to ensure you are well taken care of and receiving proper prenatal care. We recommend attending all of your doctor appointments regardless of financial concerns. It is important to be aware of your and your baby’s health and if there are any complications. Speak with one of our counselors if you are unsure or are concerned with how you will be paying for your medical expenses. 

Pregnancy can be very draining for a lot of birth mothers. It can put a strain on your mental and physical well-being. We at Adoption Choices of Missouri want nothing but the absolute best for you and your baby. Your decision to put your baby up for adoption in MO cannot be easy, and going through with the pregnancy can be very emotional. We offer services to better your pregnancy journey and create a positive experience. It might be hard not to worry, but we hope we can alleviate some of your stress with our counseling, financial, and medical support services. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

Gabriella

Meet the Author: Gabriella Dobson was born and raised in Ohio. She is currently a senior at Miami University majoring in professional writing with a focus in editing. She also minors in criminology and general business. She is a skilled barista and enjoys sipping her coffee with a good book in her hand. She is passionate about helping others and making a difference in the lives around her. With her involvement in St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital and Women Helping Women, she is able to provide resources for those in need of support.

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How to Cope With A Changing Open Adoption in Missouri 

How to Cope With A Changing An Open Adoption in Missouri 

Adoption is never an easy process and can be emotionally straining on some mothers, especially if you’re having your first ever child. However, Adoption Choices of Missouri tries to make it as smooth of a process as possible, even when you are changing an open adoption in MO. After considering adoption as the best route for you and your child, you might be wondering about the different options within adoption. There are several steps to take and several decisions to make before deciding the best option for you. In the end, the choice is entirely up to you and what you feel is best for you and your child long term.

What Are My Adoption Choices?

In Missouri, there are three types of adoptions: open, semi-open, and closed adoptions. Open adoptions are when the birth mother remains in contact with the adoptive parents and the child. Semi-open adoption is another option that is not as open because the communication between the birth mother and adoptive parents is handled through a third party such as the adoption agency or an attorney. However, the birth mother has contact with the child. The last option with adoption is a closed one where the birth mother has no contact whatsoever with the adoptive family, and the adoptive family knows little to no information of the birth mother. 

Although open Adoption in MO is becoming increasingly popular, there are a few concerns that come along with it. The main concern is that it can change, meaning that at any point in time, the amount of openness can change whether it is mutually agreed upon or not. There is typically no hardcopy documentation, and it is only a mutual agreement between the birth parents and adoptive parents. 

How to Choose The Adoption Option Best for Me

When considering all of your options, be thinking about yourself first and your baby second. Be thinking about the types of boundaries you would want to set between yourself and the adoptive parents. Do you believe that you would be emotionally stable to have open communication with your child after giving it up? There are no wrong options when it comes to this decision because it is entirely up to you. We at Missouri Adoption want to help you make an informed decision, and we are open 24/7 if you are ever in need of immediate help. 

There are pros and cons to each option.  Open adoption offers you an emotional connection with your child and lasting relationships with the birth family.  You are able to see your child grow and sustain a healthy relationship with them along the way. However, down the road, the openness could change without warning, and boundaries become stricter. It can be emotionally difficult as well, knowing the adoptive parents and seeing someone else raise your child.

Coping With An Open Adoption

Pregnancy is already a stressful enough situation, and we at Adoption Choices of Missouri want to make it easier on you, the birth mother. After deciding to go through with the adoption process and choosing the plan best for you and your child, you might be relieved of stress, or more worried. It can be worrisome to wonder if you made the right choice or not. Believe in your choice and that you probably made it under well-informed circumstances. 

If you have chosen open adoption, you might be thinking to yourself: what will happen if the adoptive parents all of a sudden reduce the openness? What happens to the relationship between me and my child? While these are valid questions, there is not much that can be done on your end since you signed over your rights as a birth mother. However, there are ways to cope with such changes. Consider that the adoptive parents are doing it in the child’s best interest, and they are only trying to make the child more comfortable. Open adoption can be difficult for all parties involved, and it can make it harder for the child to assimilate to his or her new family. Upon further thinking, if nothing seems to be making sense, reach out to us at Adoption Choices of Missouri so we may help you gain contact if that is necessary.

The choice of a Missouri adoption process and the different options you can choose from is all up to you. We are here to help inform you of those options and guide you through the process, but we cannot make the decision for you. We can make recommendations and give you exterior connections, but at the end of the day, the choice is yours. If you choose an open adoption, be aware of the pros and cons. Understand that the decision to have an open adoption affects not only you, the birth mother, and the adoptive parents, but also the child as well. No choice is the wrong choice because everyone’s situation is different, so all you can do is make a well-informed choice.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

Gabriella

Meet the Author: Gabriella Dobson was born and raised in Ohio. She is currently a senior at Miami University majoring in professional writing with a focus on editing. She also minors in criminology and general business. She is a skilled barista and enjoys sipping her coffee with a good book in her hand. She is passionate about helping others and making a difference in the lives around her. With her involvement in St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital and Women Helping Women, she is able to provide resources for those in need of support.