Post Placement Services and Resources for Birth Mothers
Adoption is a beautiful concept inside and out. Deciding whether to place the baby up for adoption can be a difficult decision to make, but it is always worth something to make that decision. However, there are alway the emotions to deal with after the adoption that maybe you made the wrong decision and that you maybe have lost your child. Fortunately, there are post placement resources and support to help you out.
What Birth Mothers Should Expect Post Placement
If you are a birth mother who is struggling in post placement, you’re possibly trying very hard to navigate through the aftermath. It is natural for a birth mother to feel a mix of the physical and emotional factors from post placement. Here’s a list of symptoms that you might dealing with:
- Guilt: it’s okay for a birth mother to feel guilty for placing her baby up for adoption, due to the negative connotations today that our society has conjured up. Feelings of shame and/or rejection are stirred, even if it was the best thing she could do for her child. It can be a difficult road to recovery, even if it was the right thing to do, and can take years.
- Harsh self-criticism: some people will criticize you for wanting to give up the baby, but you need to remember that this was and always will be your decision – not theirs. The judgements and discouragements that you get lead to self-doubt and regretting the decision to put the baby up for adoption. But you have to look past all this, remind yourself that you made the right decision and move on.
- Postpartum Depression (PPD): PPD is a mix of behavioral, physical, and emotional changes that you as a birth mother will experience after giving birth and it can occur anytime within four weeks of the birth delivery. Symptoms include hopelessness, suicidal thoughts, insomnia, eating problems, and the inadequacy of feeling needed.
Post Placement Support Resources
You will be asked so many times why you gave your child up for adoption and scrutinized for a long time. It is natural to pinpoint your exact emotions, take the time you need to grieve and recover and learn to see the positivity of your decisions. Most importantly, it is critical to find the support and resources that you need to get through the emotional aftermath of post placement.
When it comes to support resources, there are a few different options to consider. Online support resources are one way to go. The internet is a goldmine bringing people from all different walks of life together. Always remember that Adoption Choices of Missouri is here for you even after you give birth, sign relinquishment documents, and the adoption is final. We can provide counseling and support!
Support from Adoption Choices
Adoption Choices of Missouri can also help you find the resources that are best suited for you. We have caring professionals who will give you accurate and non-judgemental answers and information about your options and answer all your questions in a respectful way.
The support you need is here to help you to decide what you want to do about your pregnancy. However, we encourage you to take the time you need to make a decision about adoption. When you’re ready — we will be there for you.
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