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Is Choosing Adoption Selfish?

By Noah Abrams

Some may feel that adoption is a selfish decision on behalf of the parent or parents involved. This is a very common misconception people have. When considering adoption and placing your child, you are making the best choice for the both of you. Experiencing an unplanned pregnancy is difficult, along with the many other challenges life presents. You may feel guilty initially due to the negative stigma attached to adoption, but know you’ve done nothing wrong. It is completely understandable and commendable to consider and make such a difficult decision. 

At Adoption Choices of Missouri, we can support you through this decision. We are one of the most knowledgeable and reputable adoption agencies in Missouri. We have a dedicated staff available 24/7 to meet your needs throughout your adoption journey. We understand the nature of choosing adoption and the emotional toll it takes. Because of this, we do our best to alleviate and eliminate any potential stress in your adoption process

Negative Stigmas Surrounding Adoption

Unfortunately, there are still negative stigmas surrounding adoption even with the progress that has been made. Because of this, we must continue to shed light on the truth and destigmatize adoption. Some of the common misconceptions and stigmas surrounding adoption include:

  • Believing birth mothers don’t love their child. This is a very common misconception regarding birth mothers who place their children for adoption. This isn’t true at all, as deciding to place your child is a decision made with love. Birth mothers understand that their living, mental, or financial situation may not be ideal for their child. Knowing this, choosing adoption in Missouri is the best option through Adoption Choices of Missouri
  • Believing birth mothers don’t contact their child when the adoption is finalized. Some still believe that birth mothers place their children and abandon them. Though closed adoptions were more prevalent in the past, semi-open and open adoptions have become more popular. We encourage semi-open and open adoptions. This is because they allow the birth mother to remain connected and in contact with their child. 
  • Believing birth mothers are quitting and taking the easier path. This isn’t true either, as the adoption process is a very difficult journey for all birth mothers. Though each case is different, all can relate to the emotional and mental battle being fought daily. So much is demanded, from legal procedures, to creating a birth and adoption plan, and navigating mixed emotions.

These are just a few of the common negative stigmas surrounding birth mothers choosing adoption. There are others out there as well. The most important thing to note is that birth mothers are not quitting on their children. Instead, they are making selfless decisions to give their child the best life possible.

Why Adoption is a Selfless Decision

Choosing adoption is one of the most selfless decisions a parent can make. The bond between a mother and a child is like no other. Carrying a child for nine months in and of itself creates an emotional attachment. Knowing this, we should praise birth mothers and parents who place their children for adoption. 

Additionally, this decision indicates that the parent(s) are putting their child’s needs first. There are many reasons why placing your child for adoption could be the best option. For example, being unprepared, emotionally or financially unstable, or living in a bad environment.  It takes honesty and self-reflection to realize that you may not be ready to parent a child. This shows how much you care for your child and want the best for them. 

With your love and wanting the best for your child, you will provide them with a loving and stable home. We work with many birth mothers and potential adoptive families. The end goal is to provide the child with a loving environment.

Birth Mothers Who Have Had Positive Adoption Experiences with Adoption Choices of Missouri

We don’t want to just tell you about our private adoption service and how it’s beneficial to birth mothers. We want you to hear from birth mothers who have worked with us. In doing so, you will get the perspective of birth mothers who have been in the same scenario. Some of the testimonials are below:

  • KMK stated, “They made everything super easy and comfortable! They truly care about the moms just as much as the child. They make everything as stress-free as possible and help you in any way they can. They put you as a priority and are quick to answer any questions. I honestly don’t know what I would have done without them. They made the entire process as easy as possible and put your health and the health of the baby first! They are truly AMAZING!!”
  • Kelly stated, “They were so open and friendly, made everything simple to understand, and truly deeply cared. They were there for me whenever and listened to everything. No one ever made me feel ashamed of my decision. They made me feel good about it and supported everything that I wanted through the process.”
  • Des stated, “They were so comforting and they did not pressure me in any way to make this decision. I can honestly say that because of working with this office and the support system they have set up for birth mothers, I was able to completely change my life.”

These testimonials show that though the adoption process can be difficult, having support from Adoption Choices of Missouri can help. 

Contact Adoption Choices of Missouri Today if You Are Considering Adoption

Experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and placing your child for adoption can be scary and difficult to navigate. Though true, you don’t have to do it alone. At Adoption Choices of Missouri, we offer private adoption services and are fully licensed. Helping birth mothers daily, we have specialists available 24/7 to assist you in any way. Please contact us if you are in this situation and know that you are not giving up! You are making a decision with your child’s health and safety as the priority.