Choosing Adoption as a Birth Mother in College
You’ve just started college. You’re also on your own for the first time, and decide to see what college life and being independent is all about. Some of your college friends or roommates invite you out to a party, which you happily agree to. A few weeks later, you realize you’re late on your monthly cycle. Then, you start waking up feeling like you caught the flu. You take a pregnancy test and stare into one of your worst fears — you’re pregnant. What are you going to do?
Deciding how to handle a pregnancy, especially an unplanned one, is scary. It feels like the world has turned upside down. As if you’re the only one in the world and no one will understand what you are going through
But we have good news. You are not alone! You have options available and a support system ready to surround you the moment you ask. Adoption Choices of Missouri is here to support you in any we can. Here is how you can go about choosing adoption as a birth mother in college.
Deciding How to Handle Your Unplanned Pregnancy
The first decision that you have to make about your unplanned pregnancy is deciding what you’d like to do about your unplanned pregnancy. There are three options available: parent your child, terminate your pregnancy or place your child up for adoption.
1) Parent Your Child
If you decide to parent the child, then you have to figure out how you’re going to raise the child. This includes doing research on what kind of parenting classes you would need to take. These classes are found on the internet, and are important educational and informational resources for you on parenthood. Make sure to thoroughly research each class option, though, so you don’t get caught up in a scam.
2) Terminate Your Pregnancy
If you don’t feel ready to parent your child, your second option is to terminate your pregnancy. With this, remember that laws vary by state on what is considered legal and illegal. For instance, in the state of Missouri, termination is prohibited after 8 weeks. Before termination can occur, you must receive state-directed counseling and then wait 72 hours before you are eligible for the procedure. Insurance, both private and public, will only cover the procedure if there’s evidence that the birth mother’s life is in danger.
3) Place Your Baby for Adoption
Your third option is to place the baby up for adoption.This allows you to give your child their best chance at life. To choose an adoptive family to raise him or her, and to ensure their safety and security. Also, to choose the level of openness you want. There are three options to choose from: open, semi-open and closed.
We understand that picking an adoption agency can be tricky. So, be sure to take all the time you need to research the adoption agencies in your area and see who aligns the best with what you are looking for. Each and every agency will vary slightly. At our agency, you will be treated with the utmost respect and lots of compassion. Our well-trained staff of professionals offer the most nonjudgmental, empowering and positive adoption experience possible. We will walk with you every step of the way and make sure that both you and your baby are well looked after.
Choosing Adoption as a Birth Mother in College
Discovering that you are pregnant in college can be overwhelming. What’s more, deciding what to do on top of a school load isn’t easy either. But don’t worry. It isn’t the end of the world, and you are not alone. Adoption is an option no matter how late you are in your pregnancy. However, the earlier you contact our agency, the sooner we can help you begin your adoption journey.
At Adoption Choices of Missouri, placing your baby for adoption comes at no cost to you. If you are in need of financial assistance, prenatal care or temporary housing, your adoption caseworker will help you through that and see what you are eligible for.
Always remember that adoption is an option for you, no matter what. Adoption Choices of Missouri has three different levels of openness for your adoption plan — open, semi-open and closed. It’s a big step into this wide and vast world of adoption and adoption agencies, and can be scary, but remember that we are here for you no matter what.
Meet the Author: Sofia Becker is currently a student at Liberty University and is majoring in a Bachelor of Science in History with a double minor in Biblical Studies and writing. She is currently working on a Robin Hood retelling and an entire epic fantasy world in the making. In her spare time, she loves watching The Office and Disney movies.
Through her blogs, and her passion for helping and encouraging others, she hopes to make a difference in someone’s life. She also looks forward to becoming a better writer and editor. To learn more about Sofia, be sure to check out her blog and Instagram.