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Financial Assistance Options when Placing Your Baby for Adoption as a Homeless Pregnant Woman in Missouri

Financial Assistance Options when Placing Your Baby for Adoption as a Homeless Pregnant Woman in Missouri

COVID-19 is not the only outbreak sweeping the nation — there is also a surge in homelessness quickly spreading across the country. As businesses were forced to shutter their doors due to the virus, unemployment rates rose and new job opportunities quickly became scarce.

As a result of economic instability, domestic violence also rose during COVID-19. This left many pregnant women who would otherwise have a home without a safe living space. This increase in domestic abuse, combined with new COVID-19 restrictions and regulations at women’s shelters, means that shelters filled up to capacity even more quickly. 

Even before the pandemic hit, homelessness was on the rise. There was a 5% increase in homelessness between 2018 and 2019 in Missouri alone: the number of homeless people rose from 5,883 in 2018 to 6,179 in 2019. 

Looking at the larger demographic of homelessness across the U.S. gives us a better sense of how pregnant women and families fit into this picture. National studies show that homeless families make up around 40 percent of the homeless population and that homeless women are about five times more likely to become pregnant than housed women. Being homeless and not having access to contraception leads to a higher rate of pregnancy, but this also puts you into a higher risk category due to the very same lack of resources. 

That is exactly why Adoption Choices of Missouri is here for you. We are a full-service, licensed local adoption agency. This means we provide a variety of aid, including: financial assistance, safe housing, medical care, mental health care, and legal representation. The level of assistance available to you varies based on your individual situation and personal needs. Your adoption caseworker will help you find and navigate all the different types of support systems available to you.

7 Types of Financial Assistance Available When Placing Your Baby for Adoption as a Homeless Pregnant Woman in Missouri:

  • Rent and utilities. If you are homeless or in an unsafe living condition, your adoption caseworker will make sure that safe housing is provided for you as quickly as possible. However, if you already have housing, but are on the verge of homelessness or are worried about keeping the heat on this winter, financial assistance for rent and utilities may be available to you. Your baby’s adoptive family may or may not be able to offer some housing assistance as well, but the amount of help they can provide will vary greatly.
  • Food and groceries. Pregnant women and babies growing in the womb need lots of nourishment, and you should not have to worry where your next meal is coming from. Your adoption caseworker will work with you to ensure that you have your dietary needs met while you are eating for two. Eating healthy is vital to the health of you and your baby.
  • Phone services. It would be very difficult to make doctor’s appointments, stay in touch with your adoption specialist, or search for employment without being able to call anyone. That is why we will help you receive phone services in order for you to schedule your appointments.
  • Transportation. Simply getting around while pregnant is hard enough as it is, and you should not have to miss a doctor’s appointment just because you could not find a ride. We provide transportation services to and from doctor’s office visits and the pharmacy. 
  • Maternity clothes. Maternity clothes are expensive and not always easy to come by at a thrift store or readily available at a shelter. We will work to secure the proper clothes for your growing belly. 
  • Medical expenses. We provide medical care that covers prenatal check-up appointments, as well as hospital fees. There are state programs available to help you receive healthcare coverage, and we will work with you to make sure you get whatever aid is available. We will help you every step of the way, from prenatal appointments to labor and delivery to postpartum services. Your adoption caseworker will be able to go over all of these options with you more in-depth.
  • Mental health care. Postpartum Depression is real and very serious, but it is also natural to simply feel some grief over your loss when choosing adoption. That is why we provide mental health and support counseling throughout your pregnancy, the adoption process and after. 

Don’t Wait to Ask for Help When Placing Your Baby for Adoption as a Homeless Pregnant Woman

In order to receive financial assistance, your situation must first be assessed. The earlier you contact us, the sooner your adoption caseworker can get to work helping you and providing you with the care you need. With different types of adoptions like open adoption becoming more popular and widely available, you can even maintain contact and have a healthy relationship with your baby and his or her adoptive family. 

Remember, placing a baby for adoption is free and never at any cost to you. You should never feel as though someone is giving you money to influence or place pressure on your adoption decision, but there are many different forms of aid available to you. As soon as you contact us, we will begin working diligently to guarantee that you are safe and that all of your needs are met.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Kelly Felix is a graduate from the University of New Orleans. She holds a BA in English as well as a BA in Sociology. Her English concentration is in journalism, and her specialties in sociology are gender studies and environmental sociology.

When she isn’t voraciously guzzling coffee or devouring books, Kelly can be found either bent over a canvas working on her art or at her computer playing video games. She has hands-on classroom teaching experience from her time working as a substitute teacher for Kelly Services. Kelly also completed an in-house editorial internship at Pelican Publishing Company, and she finished the goal internship program at Green Light New Orleans. Kelly generally exists in a state of suspended disbelief, but when she’s not there she resides in New Orleans.

 

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What is the Difference between infant Adoption and Newborn Adoption?

What is the Difference between infant Adoption and Newborn Adoption?

If you have decided to place your baby up for adoption, you may come across two terms in your research that you’re not familiar with — infant adoption and newborn adoption. You also may see these terms used interchangeably, adding to the confusion. But not to worry. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri is a local adoption agency here to help! We are going to share with you the difference between infant adoption and newborn adoption, so that you can have a deeper understanding of how each could impact your adoption journey.

What is Infant Adoption?

Infant adoption is when a birth mother decides to place her baby for adoption before the baby is born. She can choose to do this at any point in her pregnancy; although, sooner is always better. This allows her time to create her adoption plan, choose the adoptive parents and get to know them before the birth depending on how much communication she wants to have after the adoption has been finalized. 

If you are currently facing an unplanned pregnancy and have decided that adoption is the best option, infant adoption would be a great thing for you to consider. We understand that you may be experiencing an overwhelming amount of emotions, and that choosing adoption when you’ve just discovered that you’re pregnant is not easy; but, remember this. There is no shame in wanting to give your baby a better life. There is nothing wrong with admitting you’re not in a place where you can provide for your child. Adoption provides your child with a loving, supporting adoptive family and everything you’re unable to. So, you can be sure that he or she will be well taken care of.

What is Newborn Adoption?

With newborn adoption, you may be in the middle of giving birth or already trying to parent your baby at home. Perhaps you felt too overwhelmed to make a plan, or you thought that you were ready to raise a child. But then, whether in the hospital or caring for a new baby at home, you changed your mind. Whatever your circumstances, newborn adoption is there to provide you with an excellent solution.

Just like with infant adoption, you will still get to create an adoption plan, choose what type of adoption is best for you and select the adoptive parents. However, you may find the adoption process to be a bit more expedited. This is just to ensure that both you and the baby are well taken care of in a shorter amount of time, since he or she is most likely already born. If you are looking for a quick adoption with little to no strings attached, our adoption agency can choose a pre-screened adoptive family for you. It’s all completely up to you and your comfort level.

The Difference Between Infant Adoption and Newborn Adoption

As outlined above, the biggest difference between infant and newborn adoption is the timing. Each option presents soon-to-be birth mothers with appropriate options that will accomodate you, no matter your circumstances. If you feel like you need more time to prepare — physically, emotionally and mentally — infant adoption would be a good option to consider. If, however, you are confident in your decision and want a fast adoption at the hospital, or you change your mind at the last minute, our adoption agency is here to help you with newborn adoption. 

There is no right or wrong decision between the two. You will have full control over your adoption journey no matter what. Your baby will be placed in a caring and loving adoptive family either way and provided with a better and brighter future. Nothing happens without your approval and the green light to move forward. At the end of the day, it’s completely up to you what you want to do.

Which is Right for You: Infant Adoption or Newborn Adoption?

Adoption is a wonderful option to choose if you are not in a place where you can or can raise your child. Every baby deserves a chance at a great life and given every opportunity to grow. We hope that this resource has given you more insight into the difference between infant adoption and newborn adoption, and how each can impact your adoption journey. Both provide you with plans that keep the best interests of you and your baby in mind. 

No matter what you decide, infant and newborn adoption guarantee that your baby will find a loving home, and that you will have peace of mind and confidence that you made the right choice. Through your selflessness and bravery, you can create families and bring happiness to those who are looking for it. 

For contact and all things adoption, navigate here to reach us. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the AuthorMy name is Alexander Charles Cooper, I come from a family of four that originates from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. I, along with my younger brother Greyson were born in North Carolina, three years after my parents had wed and moved to the state. Alexander shares his birthday with Maya Angelou, which he takes great pride in. 

Growing up, Alexander had the privilege of having both parents in his life and a stable upbringing in which he was surrounded by family and friends. He believes that much of his family foundation is built on faith which has given him a discipline and practice that has allowed him to discover and build his spiritual self. He is also interested in politics and worldly news that allows him to excel in American literature, philosophy/ethics, and higher learning. 

From that, his passion in writing bloomed and he found his true calling: “I wished to create and write for a living and know it will be what makes me happiest. My only wish is for me to bring about positive change for others both near and far and leave a lasting legacy that contributes to the overall wellbeing and joy of others.”

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Are there Requirements for Placing a Baby for Adoption in Missouri as a Pregnant Woman?

Are there Requirements for Placing a Baby for Adoption in Missouri as a Pregnant Woman?

Before beginning anything new, it is always a good idea to do some research. Beginning the adoption process is no different! If you are researching your unplanned pregnancy options, and learning more about adoption in particular, you might have some questions. You’ve come to the right place!

We are here to help you familiarize yourself with the requirements for placing a baby for adoption in Missouri as a pregnant woman. Here are some questions that you might be asking. 

  1. Does Choosing Adoption Cost Money? 

The short answer, no. Choosing to place your child for adoption in Missouri will always be free as a birth mother. You do not need to let fear of surprise costs or lack of finances stand in the way of choosing to start your adoption journey. At Adoption Choices of Missouri, there is even the possibility of financial assistance throughout your pregnancy. The amount of assistance is determined on an as-needed basis. Your adoption caseworker will be able to help you determine if you are eligible or not. 

  1. Do I Need to have Health Care? 

Again, no. You will be able to work with your adoption caseworker to find prenatal care and health care. As you conduct your search, your adoption caseworker will work to help you find care that matches your own unique needs. Our goal is to ensure that you are well taken care of throughout your pregnancy and adoption journey. 

  1. What If I am Currently Homeless? 

Not a problem! If you are an expecting mother, but do not currently have a stable housing situation, you will be provided with a safe housing option. One of our top goals at our adoption agency is to ensure that your entire adoption journey, including your pregnancy, is as comfortable, safe and healthy as possible. If you have a house, but need assistance with rent or utilities, your adoption caseworker can help you receive assistance in these areas. 

  1. Will I have Access to Counseling? 

Yes! Choosing to place your baby for adoption is an emotional and complex decision. While turning to friends and family for support can be a useful tool, you will also have access to our free counseling services. These services will be available throughout your adoption journey and can provide you with post-placement support after the adoption is finalized. 

Mental health is a vital component of any healthy pregnancy and successful adoption journey. We want to ensure that you are as supported as possible in this department. Your adoption caseworker will be available to help match you with an adoption counselor who can support you in a way that best fits your unique needs, situation and personality. 

Requirements for Placing a Baby for Adoption in Missouri as a Pregnant Woman

These are some of the main requirements for placing a baby for adoption in Missouri as a pregnant woman. If you still have any unanswered questions, Adoption Choices of Missouri is happy to help you answer those. If you are still experiencing any hesitation, feel free to schedule an initial meeting with us. We are here to support you and guide you safely through the adoption process in Missouri.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Molly Doyle is a native San Franciscan, Molly is an experienced educator and a dedicated writer. She holds her multiple subject teaching credential as well as her Masters of Arts in Teaching. When not teaching children or creating new written pieces, Molly can be found kicking around a soccer ball, going for urban hikes or whipping up a fruit pie. 

She currently lives in Seattle, her first home outside of California. 

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I’m 20, Pregnant and I Don’t Want the Baby: What Next? 

I’m 20, Pregnant and I Don’t Want the Baby: What Next? 

At 20 years old, it is very common to still be uncertain about the direction you’d like your life to go. You might be in the midst of discovering or developing a passion, completing a school program or working a job. Raising a child is a life-changing event and, depending on your situation, can be at odds with your own lifeplan. 

If you are a 20 year old facing an unplanned pregnancy and have decided that you don’t want the baby, you are probably asking, I’m 20, pregnant and don’t want the baby. What next? Fortunately, Adoption Choices of Missouri is available to walk you through your possibilities. Keep in mind that deciding that you don’t want the baby is a big and emotional process. It is important to make sure that you take the time to ensure that you make an informed choice. This will help you maintain confidence throughout the next steps of your journey. Here are two options for you to choose from: 

  1. Terminate the Pregnancy

The second option that you have if you are facing an unplanned pregnancy is to terminate the pregnancy. If you do not have conflicting personal or religious views with this choice, then it can provide a range of benefits as well. When you schedule your initial meeting with Adoption Choices of Missouri, you will be able to discuss this option in detail with the staff at our adoption agency. 

In the state of Missouri, you are required to receive and attend state-mandated, in-person counseling sessions. After this, you must wait 72 hours until you are able to proceed with the abortion procedure. Abortion is legal up to 21 weeks. If you are past this, terminating your pregnancy is only permitted if your health and/or life is in severe danger. Be sure to consult with your doctor and healthcare provider to learn more.

  1. Place the Baby for Adoption

You always have the option of placing your baby for adoption. If you do choose this path, you can contact Adoption Choices of Missouri to set up an initial meeting. You will be matched with an adoption caseworker who will remain with you throughout the adoption process and can answer any questions or concerns that may arise along the way. 

Placing your baby for adoption has many benefits for both you and the baby. If you have career or school-related goals that don’t allow room for a child, adoption can provide the possibility of pursuing your dreams. If you are in a difficult financial situation, you may also be eligible to receive financial assistance during your pregnancy. Choosing to place your baby for adoption ensures that your child will be brought up in a stable and loving home. You will be able to choose the type of adoption that best fits your life, so you will not necessarily have to end all contact with your child if you choose this path. 

20, Pregnant and I Don’t Want the Baby: What Next?

Like all life-changing choices, deciding how to proceed can take a lot of time and careful thought. Determining that you are not going to raise your child is a personal one, and not a choice that can be taken lightly. Remember that this decision will be unique to you, so it is important that you listen to your own needs, desires and beliefs. That said, deciding that you don’t want the baby can be an emotional decision, so it might be helpful to talk through it with supportive family or friends. 

If you do not have supportive loved ones in your life, the staff at Adoption Choices of Missouri are more than happy to help. We understand the importance of making an informed choice that reflects your own unique circumstances and principles and are here to help you to the best of our abilities. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Molly Doyle is a native San Franciscan, Molly is an experienced educator and a dedicated writer. She holds her multiple subject teaching credential as well as her Masters of Arts in Teaching. When not teaching children or creating new written pieces, Molly can be found kicking around a soccer ball, going for urban hikes or whipping up a fruit pie. 

She currently lives in Seattle, her first home outside of California. 

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Choosing Adoption as a Pregnant Woman in Your Thirties

Choosing Adoption as a Pregnant Woman in Your Thirties

Unplanned pregnancies are just that: unplanned. Life has a way of throwing curveballs at us whenever we least expect it. No matter what age you are or what stage of your life you are in, an unplanned pregnancy can be a major disruption for anyone. That is why it is perfectly reasonable and understandable to not be ready or willing for such an intense and all-encompassing change in your life. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri is here to help you every step of the way. If you are choosing adoption as a pregnant woman in your thirties, you’re in good hands. Adoption is always an option for you, no matter what your circumstances.  

Six Things to Remember When Choosing Adoption as a Pregnant Woman in Your Thirties

1. You are Shattering Stereotypes. There are so many preconceived notions and common misconceptions about adoption. We are all too well-aware of the stereotype of the birth mother as a young, unwed teenager lacking in financial stability who chooses adoption and never sees her baby again out of shame; but, this is not always the case. Women have continuously and tirelessly overcome stereotypes and assumptions for centuries now, and the stigmas around adoption are no different. The truth of the matter is that expectant mothers like you come in all ages, colors, and creeds from all different walks of life.

2. You are Being Selfless, not Selfish. Women of all ages choose adoption for many reasons. But, at the end of the day, making this choice is always the most selfless act of love you can ever make for both yourself and your baby. Remember, you are shattering stereotypes here, and you are bestowing your baby with opportunities and a life you would not be able to otherwise provide. Adoption requires courage and selflessness. It is perfectly natural to feel grief over losing your parenthood when placing your baby for adoption, but you do not have to feel guilty for doing so on top of that. You are doing what is right and in the best interests of both you and your baby, and that is such an admirable and honorable act in and of itself.

3. You are Not Acting Alone. Many pregnant women in their thirties are choosing adoption as a viable option nowadays. Perhaps understanding a few of the many different reasons why other women in your age group decide to choose adoption may help you with your own decision.

  • You may already have kids. Maybe your family is already complete. If you already have kids, then you understand the full financial impacts, as well as all of the demanding and time-consuming responsibilities of raising children. Maybe you just cannot give another child the time and dedication that things like homework, sports activities, and school require without sacrificing the time and attention your other children already require.
  • You might be progressing or advancing in your career. We talked briefly about the misconceptions surrounding adoption, and financial instability is a big one. Perhaps just the opposite is true for you: you are financially stable and are moving upwards in your career, but you are just too busy at your demanding job to raise a baby. 
  • Your relationship with the baby’s father may be complicated. Most people assume that being pregnant in your thirties means you’ve found a stable relationship, but that’s not realistic, is it? What’s more, relationships are always complicated, no matter what age you are. Having a baby with your partner or spouse might make you feel like you are trapped or stuck with them, and staying with someone just for the baby isn’t fair to you, the baby, or your partner.
  • Maybe you just don’t want to be a parent. Maybe being a mom just isn’t right for you — and that’s ok! Parenting is not for everyone. Not only are you shattering stereotypes, you are breaking the mold. You are paving the path to self-empowerment for women everywhere who simply do not want kids by showing the world that it is ok to have your own ambitions besides raising children.

5. You have a Support System. There are several different types of support systems available to you. Not only are there adoption discussion forums and relatable firsthand accounts from birth mothers available online, but Adoption Choices of Missouri offers all kinds of support in the forms of financial aid, safe housing, medical care, and mental health counseling. We provide you with an adoption caseworker who will help you navigate these services and the entire adoption process, from picking out your adoptive family to making a birth plan.

6. You are in Complete Control. Choosing adoption gives you control over things like who will raise your baby and the degree of contact you will maintain afterwards. You get to choose an adoptive family based on your criteria, as well as deciding what level of involvement you would like. For example, open adoption allows for you to stay in touch with the adoptive family so that you have the opportunity to watch your baby grow up. We strongly encourage open adoption as we believe it keeps everyone’s best interests at heart. Open adoption is actually the most common form of adoption in the U.S. today, and it is just another example of how you can shatter the stereotypes and erroneous assumptions that surround adoption.

Adoption Choices of Missouri Is Here for Birth Mothers of Any Age

Despite all the common misconceptions and stereotypes surrounding adoption, it is perfectly practical and sensible choosing adoption as a pregnant woman in your thirties. Having a baby is a major life change at any age, and this far along in your existence you have already become accustomed to your current lifestyle. No one wants to feel like they are starting all over again in their thirties, and many women are now choosing later-in-life adoption. Thanks to practices like open adoption becoming more common, you can still be involved in your baby’s life and get to know the person he or she grows up to be without having the full responsibility of parenthood. No matter what your reasons for choosing adoption are, our adoption specialists will be here to help you every step of the way. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Kelly Felix is a graduate from the University of New Orleans. She holds a BA in English as well as a BA in Sociology. Her English concentration is in journalism, and her specialties in sociology are gender studies and environmental sociology.

When she isn’t voraciously guzzling coffee or devouring books, Kelly can be found either bent over a canvas working on her art or at her computer playing video games. She has hands-on classroom teaching experience from her time working as a substitute teacher for Kelly Services. Kelly also completed an in-house editorial internship at Pelican Publishing Company, and she finished the goal internship program at Green Light New Orleans. Kelly generally exists in a state of suspended disbelief, but when she’s not there she resides in New Orleans.

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You can Still Choose a Closed Adoption as a Pregnant Woman in Missouri 

You can Still Choose a Closed Adoption as a Pregnant Woman in Missouri 

As with any adoption, it can vary from birth mother to birth mother. The conditions or terms decided by the birth mother are always best suited in what she feels most comfortable with and believes will work for her and her baby. This includes what type of adoption she wants, who she wants to raise her child and how involved she wants to be after the adoption has been finalized. Each and every birth mother’s adoption journey will be as unique as she is. No two adoption processes will ever be the same

That said, Adoption Choices of Missouri is here to share more information about the three types of adoption you can choose — specifically the option of closed adoption. Even though most adoptions are open in some way, you can still choose a closed adoption as a pregnant woman in Missouri if you feel it’s the best decision for you and your child. 

Closed Adoption – What Is It?

Early in the adoption process, birth mothers are asked how exactly they would like the exchange of information to be held when her baby is placed with his or her chosen adoptive family. If the expectant mother would prefer that her adoption journey have privacy, or she does not want to be involved in the adoption process, she could choose a closed adoption. In a closed adoption agreement, no identifying information is shared with the adoptive parents. No medical informational, contact information, etc. Everything is kept confidential. 

Then, once the adoption is finalized in court, all files related to the adoption process are sealed. Access to these can only be granted once the child turns an approved age. This can vary depending on what state you live in. For Missouri, the child must be at least 18 years of age. 

Common Emotions Associated with a Closed Adoption

One of the most common things birth mothers may feel when she puts her baby into the care of an adoptive family is regret. Guilt and many other emotions, like sadness, may come over you as well, but this is all part of the natural grieving process.  It’s not uncommon to feel these emotions throughout your adoption journey as making the choice to place your child for adoption is not an easy one.

Know that you are not cruel, selfish or weak to experience these feelings. Only you know what is best for you. Admitting that you are not able to provide for your child and putting your baby’s needs above your own is a decision that takes an immense amount of courage, strength and love. Adoption ensures that your baby, once placed in the care of an adoptive family, will have the best life he or she can have. This doesn’t mean, however, that it won’t be a bittersweet moment for you. So, if you find yourself struggling, don’t bottle it inside. Seek help from an adoption counselor or talk to a mental health professional. They can relieve your mind and help you find comfort in knowing that you made the right decision for both you and your baby. That you  gave your baby a better chance at success and the opportunity to live a happy, healthy life.

You can Still Choose a Closed Adoption as a Pregnant Woman in Missouri

The bottom line is that having a closed adoption does not make you a bad person or a bad mother. Any speculation or stigma about it is wrong and it is completely fine to go through with. Choosing a closed adoption is nothing to be ashamed of. It still ensures that your child will be placed in a loving home and be raised in a happy, safe and healthy environment. 

In addition, choosing a closed adoption as a pregnant woman in Missouri means that you get to maintain your privacy and have a sense of closure. Closed adoptions let you move on and put one of the hardest decisions you’ve ever had to make behind you. Despite the change the adoption industry has made over the past several years, closed adoptions are still available and an okay type of adoption to choose if you determine it’s the best decision for you and your baby.

For all things adoption, contact Adoption Choices of Missouri here and let’s get started on your own adoption plan.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the AuthorMy name is Alexander Charles Cooper, I come from a family of four that originates from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. I, along with my younger brother Greyson were born in North Carolina, three years after my parents had wed and moved to the state. Alexander shares his birthday with Maya Angelou, which he takes great pride in. 

Growing up, Alexander had the privilege of having both parents in his life and a stable upbringing in which he was surrounded by family and friends. He believes that much of his family foundation is built on faith which has given him a discipline and practice that has allowed him to discover and build his spiritual self. He is also interested in politics and worldly news that allows him to excel in American literature, philosophy/ethics, and higher learning. 

From that, his passion in writing bloomed and he found his true calling: “I wished to create and write for a living and know it will be what makes me happiest. My only wish is for me to bring about positive change for others both near and far and leave a lasting legacy that contributes to the overall wellbeing and joy of others.”

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5 Ways Placing a Baby for Adoption can Change Your Life as a Birth Mother 

5 Ways Placing a Baby for Adoption can Change Your Life as a Birth Mother 

Adoption is such a great life-changing decision that you made after experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. As a birth mother, your selfless decision to give your child a better chance at a life through adoption will allow him or her to share wonderful experiences, and will enable you to be able to join in on these precious moments. 

At Adoption Choices of Missouri, our adoption agency has listed the top 5 ways placing a baby for adoption can change your life.

  1. You can Become an Advocate for Adoption

Being a birth mother means that you could be an advocate for adoption, if you wish. Having your voice reach out on online media platforms like Facebook or Instagram will help you express the importance of adoption. Sharing your story may help you heal through the various emotions you may feel going through your adoption journey. 

  1. You will Get a New Extended Family

By choosing adoption, your child gets a loving adoptive family and you also get a new extended family of love that you will get to know. As a birth mother, you will get to spend precious moments with your child’s adoptive family, sharing experiences that your child will have, like family gatherings or vacations. 

  1. You will get a Second Mother’s Day

As a birth mother, you get a special holiday dedicated to you for the great decision to choose adoption for your child. Birth Mother’s Day happens the Saturday before Mother’s Day. This second Mother’s Day may bring up mixed emotions for some birth mothers about their adoption, but to have a special holiday that you can celebrate your birth child can help make you feel important. Having this holiday will remind you that, wherever you are, near or far, you are still a mother to your child.  

  1. You can Achieve Your Own Life Goals 

Adoption allows you to give your child the best life you want for them. It also allows you a chance to follow your dreams later in life. In your post-adoption plans, you can begin to work on yourself and accomplish your life goals, like going back to college, pursuing a better job opportunity, etc.

  1. You will Always Have a Special Someone to Celebrate 

Being a birth mother means that you will have a special someone always to celebrate. You will have a special event to celebrate with your birth child — like your birth child’s birthday, special holidays, or an event that highlights your child’s extracurricular activities and moments in their life. Celebrating the little moments that you get with your child will forever be held close to your heart. 

Advice to Birth Mothers in Missouri

Being a birth mother means that you will get all the positive benefits that come with adoption, and  be able to change your life as well. Whether this is through completing school, chasing your dream job or raising your other children, that’s up to you. Or, placing your baby for adoption could give you time to prepare for a family later in life. The possibilities are endless.

No matter what kind of adoption plan you have chosen for your child, adoption is such a positive choice and provides both you and your child with many positive benefits. Adoption will forever be the most rewarding decision you will make if you find yourself unexpectedly pregnant. To learn more about adoption and how it can change your life, don’t hesitate to reach out.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Samara Wiley is a published author of poetry, essays, and an environmental children’s storybook called, Waiting for the Water Fairy. She graduated from Benedictine University in 2018 with a double Bachelor of Arts in English Literature and French.She has been published in three small poetry anthologies one was called Talented.

Her other writing accomplishments include: winning a high school poetry competition and $2500 for her high school, having two out of her five novels be considered for publication and writing movie critic reviews for her university’s newsletter. 

Although she has Cerebral Palsy and has had a turbulent childhood, Samara puts these small specs of herself into her writing to personally connect with her audience. She prides herself on pushing the boundaries in her writing and in her personal life with everything she does. Samara writes with her heart and a voice of compassion, and loves to pull from her top passions in life.

She currently lives in Yorkville, Illinois with her mom and two sisters.

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What are Your Rights as a Birth Mother in Missouri? 

What are Your Rights as a Birth Mother in Missouri? 

Are you an expectant mother living in Missouri? Have you made the decision to place your baby for adoption in your state? If you answered yes to either of these questions, chances are you might be wondering what your rights as a birth mother in Missouri are. Some birth mother rights vary between states, so a few of the following will be unique to your state of Missouri. If you have any further questions about your rights, Adoption Choices of Missouri is happy to help answer those for you. 

The Right to Change Your Mind

Placing your baby for adoption is an emotional and life-changing decision. While we do recommend doing everything you can to make a confident and informed choice, there remains the possibility that you might change your mind. If you should change your mind about placing your baby for adoption, you have the right to keep your legal rights to your child and to inform our adoption agency of your decision. 

In Missouri, you have up until 48 hours after your child’s birth to legally change your mind. However, please keep in mind that changing your mind this late will impact not only you and your child’s life, but the lives of your adoptive family as well. 

The Right to Create Your Own Adoption Plan 

You will be in charge of creating your own adoption plan. Your adoption caseworker will be there to support you throughout this process. Your adoption plan will include details about your adoptive family, your hospital and birth plans, the type of adoption you want and what kind of communication you will maintain with your adoptive family throughout your pregnancy. This plan is meant to eliminate any surprises during your adoption journey and to help you feel prepared and safe. 

The Right to Make Your Plan Without the Birth Father

Depending on your own unique situation, it might be possible to move forward in the adoption process without the consent of the birth father. Usually, this option is reserved for cases in which the birth father is unknown, uninvolved or unsupportive. Our adoption agency will help you determine what move best fits into your adoption plan in this regard. 

The Right to Choose Your Adoptive Family 

The right to choose your child’s adoptive family rests with you. You will still have the support of your adoption caseworker who can assist you throughout this emotional decision-making process. Before selecting an adoptive family for your child, you will have the opportunity to browse potential family’s portfolios, speak to them on the phone and meet them in-person. If at any point during this process you wish to change your selection, that will always remain an option for you. 

The Right to an Attorney and Covered Legal Fees

In order to make an adoption final, a judge will need your consent to end your legal parental rights to your child. At this point, your adoptive family will become the legal guardians of your child. At Adoption Choices of Missouri, your legal fees during this finalization process will be covered. You will also have the option of selecting to have an attorney appear in front of the judge rather than yourself.  

What are Your Rights as a Birth Mother in Missouri?

These are some of your basic rights as a birth mother in your state of Missouri. Adoption Choices of Missouri is able to help you better understand your rights and to make you feel supported. Our goal is to help you stay informed and prepared as you proceed through your adoption journey. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Molly Doyle is a native San Franciscan, Molly is an experienced educator and a dedicated writer. She holds her multiple subject teaching credential as well as her Masters of Arts in Teaching. When not teaching children or creating new written pieces, Molly can be found kicking around a soccer ball, going for urban hikes or whipping up a fruit pie. 

She currently lives in Seattle, her first home outside of California. 

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How to Begin the Adoption Process as a Pregnant Woman in Missouri

How to Begin the Adoption Process as a Pregnant Woman in Missouri

Are you a pregnant woman in Missouri wondering how to start the adoption process? While beginning anything new can be daunting, the good news is that Adoption Choices of Missouri is here to make your adoption journey as uncomplicated as possible. 

Beginning anything new can be a daunting experience, but as you set out on your adoption journey, the important thing to remember is that you are not alone. Our adoption agency can provide you with continuous help and support. 

Here are a few steps you can take to begin the adoption process as a pregnant woman in Missouri.

Consider the Benefits of Adoption For Your Life

If you are still having doubts about whether adoption is the right choice for you and your child, it can be helpful to start by listing the benefits to choosing adoption. While there are many benefits to choosing to place your child for adoption, the reasons you list will be unique to your situation. Maybe you can’t bear the financial burden of raising a child right now. Perhaps you have career goals that don’t allow space for a baby at this moment. Whatever your individual reasons for choosing adoption, creating a list can help you feel confident and secure in your choice. 

Contact Adoption Choices of Missouri and Schedule a Meeting

Once your decision has been made, you will begin the adoption process by contacting Adoption Choices of Missouri and scheduling a meeting. A birth parent counselor will come to you and assist you with the necessary paperwork. You will need to have proof of your pregnancy with you at this time, so make sure that you have that ready prior to the scheduled visit. This meeting is also a great time to ask any questions that you might have about the next steps in the adoption process or to voice any concerns. 

Select a Doctor to care through Adoption Pregnancy

When you have contacted our adoption agency and met with a birth counselor to complete all the needed paperwork, you can expect to begin searching for a doctor. This might seem early, but keep in mind that you will be in frequent communication with your healthcare provider throughout your pregnancy. It is important that your doctor is someone that you can trust and with whom you feel comfortable and safe. If you are choosing to give birth at home, you can also use this time to search for a midwife or a doula who will come to your house to assist with the birth. 

Find an Adoptive Family to Adopt Your Baby

A large part of the adoption process consists of finding an adoptive family for your child. Because this can be an emotional decision, remember that your adoption caseworker will be there to support you throughout this process. A common concern among expectant mothers is that they will not know enough about an adoptive family to be able to select one that will be perfect for their child. This is certainly not the case. 

With Adoption of Choices of Missouri, you will begin the process of selecting an adoptive family by reviewing any potential family’s portfolio. Here you will find information that may be important to you, such as religious beliefs and career choices, about each family. Once you have selected a family that you are interested in, you will have the opportunity to speak to them on the phone before meeting them in person. The choice to move forward with a family is always in your hands, but you can talk through your decisions with supportive friends or your adoption caseworker. 

How to Begin the Adoption Process as a Pregnant Woman in Missouri

These are just a few of the steps that you will take as your adoption journey begins. Adoption Choices of Missouri is available to answer questions and to make you feel comfortable and informed as you begin your adoption journey. Keep in mind that it is completely normal to have questions and concerns along the way and that you will be supported throughout. 

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Molly Doyle is a native San Franciscan, Molly is an experienced educator and a dedicated writer. She holds her multiple subject teaching credential as well as her Masters of Arts in Teaching. When not teaching children or creating new written pieces, Molly can be found kicking around a soccer ball, going for urban hikes or whipping up a fruit pie. 

She currently lives in Seattle, her first home outside of California. 

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How to Choose an Adoptive Family 

How to Choose an Adoptive Family 

You have already made a tremendous and courageous first step by choosing to place your baby for adoption in Missouri. But what happens next? Our adoption specialists are here to help you through every step of the way, especially through choosing an adoptive family. We call this the matching process. It is important to us that the adoptive family you choose reflects your values and what type of parenting style you think is best for your baby. 

How involved do you want to be in their life? What do you picture when you envision your baby’s adoptive family? What parenting standards are significant to you? Let’s explore the different possibilities and find the answers to these questions together.

Getting Your Adoption Matching Process Started

Learning how to choose an adoptive family is just as easy as reaching out to us here at Adoption Choices of Missouri. Once you have contacted us, we will set you up with your adoption specialist to get your matching process started. All of our adoptive families are pre-qualified and licensed to adopt a baby within the United States. This means that your baby will go to a safe, stable and loving home, no matter who you choose.

After you meet your adoption caseworker, both of you will work together to help you find the best type of family to suit your needs. First, you will choose what type of adoption you want: open, closed, or semi-open. Open adoption is currently the most popular form of adoption in the U.S., because it allows for you and the adoptive family to stay in touch and maintain communication, rather than the anonymity and finality of a closed adoption. 

We strongly encourage open adoption because we believe it is the most beneficial for everyone involved; but, ultimately, it is up to you what type of adoption you would like to pursue. Your adoption caseworker will be able to walk you through the pros and cons of each option. 

Next, you will look through an adoptive parent profile book while your adoption caseworker helps you narrow down the search based on your requirements. Envision your baby’s adoptive family and decide which qualities are important to you. What does this adoptive family look like? Do you value diversity or any specific cultural or religious backgrounds? Do you want their life to be similar to your own upbringing in certain ways so that you can share certain hobbies or traditions, or do you want their childhood to be a completely different experience from yours? 

The Top 5 Criteria to Consider when Choosing an Adoptive Family

  1. Family Composition: Envision how you would like for your baby’s adoptive family to be composed. Let’s discuss what that may or may not look like:
  • Do you picture a large family or a small one? It may be important to you that your baby has siblings to grow up with, or you may want them to grow up as an only child.
  • What about pets? It may or may not be important to you that your baby grows up with the responsibility and companionship that comes with having a pet. 
  • What about the parent or parents — do you prefer the prospect of a single parent or a two-parent home? Single parent homes are a viable option and becoming more and more common. 
  • What about their sexuality — do you only imagine a heterosexual household or are you open to the idea of an LGBTQ+ home? A queer parent or same-sex couple or individual can provide a very loving, accepting, and nurturing home.
  • Is the age of the parent or parents important to you? Perhaps you would prefer the wisdom of a much older parent, or maybe you want a younger parent who will be able to engage in more physical outings and activities.
  1. Hobbies, lifestyle, and interests: Try to imagine what the adoptive family’s everyday life together will look like. Naturally, you will want them to offer financial stability, but what are you looking for in terms of physical and mental stability? Perhaps you visualize weekly game nights or a daily designated family dinner time. Maybe it’s important to you that they are very active together, or maybe you imagine more academic and bookish pursuits. Do you want them to share any of your creative hobbies or passions that are important to you to pass on? Or are there hobbies and activities that you never got to experience growing up but want your baby to experience?
  2. Parenting styles: How strict, disciplined, or laid back would you prefer your baby’s adoptive family to be in their approach to parenting? Maybe you had very strict parents and would prefer your adoptive family to be a little bit more permissive, or perhaps you grew up without a lot of guidance and want your adoptive family to be more authoritative. No matter what your concerns are, we will help you to find the right adoptive family that fits your parenting philosophies.
  3. Racial, cultural, or religious backgrounds: Consider how open you are to your baby being placed in different cultural, ethnic, or religious backgrounds. Transracial adoptions are becoming more commonplace and are a great way to celebrate diversity. Perhaps religion is important to you and you would like to see certain religious or cultural traditions passed down, or perhaps the exact opposite is true and you would prefer for the adoptive family to not be religious at all. No matter what level of diversity you decide is important to you, your baby will be placed in a safe, loving, and nurturing home.
  4. Geographic location: Reflect on what sort of setting in which you picture your baby’s adoptive family. Do you picture a more rural background in the country, or do you imagine a bustling cityscape? If you have decided to go ahead with open adoption you may want to consider how close or far away they will live from you. Distance matters if you plan on making future visits with your baby as he or she grows.

We are Here to Help You Choose an Adoptive Family

There are many adoptive family criteria for you to consider, from the smaller aspects of everyday life to the overall picture of core beliefs and parenting practices. You get to decide what qualities and criteria are important to you when learning how to choose an adoptive family. Our adoption specialists are here to help guide you through every aspect of the matching process. It is important that you manage your expectations and remember that not every family is perfect, but rest assured that we will find the best fit for you.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800

Meet the Author: Kelly Felix is a graduate from the University of New Orleans. She holds a BA in English as well as a BA in Sociology. Her English concentration is in journalism, and her specialties in sociology are gender studies and environmental sociology.

When she isn’t voraciously guzzling coffee or devouring books, Kelly can be found either bent over a canvas working on her art or at her computer playing video games. She has hands-on classroom teaching experience from her time working as a substitute teacher for Kelly Services. Kelly also completed an in-house editorial internship at Pelican Publishing Company, and she finished the goal internship program at Green Light New Orleans. Kelly generally exists in a state of suspended disbelief, but when she’s not there she resides in New Orleans.