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Birth Father’s Role and Responsibility in Missouri 

Birth Father’s Role and Responsibility in Missouri 

By Alex Reza

There are many misconceptions that birth fathers and the birth father’s role during the adoption process. However, this is not the case. Birth fathers have many responsibilities and play an important role in giving a baby up for adoption. We understand that considering adoption is not easy for birth parents, as you may feel guilt and a sense of loss. It may be difficult to express your thoughts and feelings about being unable to care for your child. Unfortunately, these feelings are not unusual. However, we understand you care about your child’s future and want the best for them.

This is where adoption agencies in Missouri can help. You will be very involved in deciding what is best for your child, even if you are no longer with the birth mother. Both birth parents should be aware that the birth father will not play a marginal role in the adoption of their child but instead will play an active role as a responsible and supportive partner in putting together an adoption plan.

Adoption Choices of Missouri is a licensed, private, child-placing agency that serves women facing unplanned pregnancies and prospective adoptive families. If birth parents are considering placement and wondering what role the birth father will play, please click on this link. An adoption specialist will assist you throughout the process: adoption agencies near me.

Are Adoption Agency is here to Provide Adoption Support

As the birth father, you will be the birth mother’s key support throughout the adoption process. You will help her make important decisions as to what is best for your child. The birth mother will need your support when you both become involved in choosing an adoptive family for your child. You will also need to decide what type of adoption you would like and if you want to stay informed about your child’s progress.

Communication will be very important during this process as it’s not easy to make decisions when emotions are running high. Being a supportive partner and respecting the birth mother’s decisions will be very important. The birth mother will benefit from your caring and understanding support as she goes through the pain of adoption loss. Adoption agencies in Missouri will also offer the support you will both need.

A Birth Father’s Role Includes Providing Your Complete Medical History for an Adoption

This is very important because, at some point in your child’s life, they may need to know if there are any hereditary illnesses in their family’s history for their health and wellbeing. Being transparent and providing detailed health information regarding illnesses, substance abuse, or mental health issues can help your child deal with future health complications. If your child is aware that they may be predisposed to certain illnesses, then they can be proactive with preventive care. This information will also help the adoptive family provide the best care for your child.

Helping the Birth Mother with the Adoption Plan

Think of an adoption plan as a road map that takes you through all of the key details of your adoption. Each adoption is unique, and you should feel comfortable expressing your opinions and desires for your child. You may disagree with the birth mother on some important issues. That is why your involvement is imperative to develop a plan with which the two of you feel most comfortable. There are different choices that you have to decide on when it comes to adoption.

Open adoption is where you would remain in contact with the adoptive family and will receive information about your child. There is also a semi-open adoption where you would receive this information through the adoption agency and can remain anonymous. Finally, you can choose a closed adoption where you would not receive any information about your child. In essence, you sever ties. The choice is yours and the birth mother’s to make. A key element of the adoption plan is that you also get to choose the family or individual that will adopt your child.

The Birth Father Might be Present at the Hospital During the Birth of Your Child

Depending on your relationship with the birth mother, you may also be a part of putting together a hospital plan. This is a plan of what the birth mother wants to do while in the hospital. You should decide how involved you would like to be. Do you want to be there during the birth of your child? Do you want to possibly take the birth mother to the hospital? You and the birth mother may want to spend some time alone with your child before he or she goes to the adoptive family. These are all important decisions that should be determined before your child’s birth. Your local adoption agency has a lot of experience in this area and can guide you through everything you need to consider.

It’s very important as a birth father that you do not neglect the emotional aspect of giving a baby up for adoption. You may feel it’s more manly to not express your grief and attempt to bury your feelings. However, how you feel is natural, and it is healthy to express what you are going through. Adoption Choices of Missouri offers counseling to both birth parents to help process these emotions.

As birth parents, you may be wondering what the birth father’s role will be throughout the adoption process. If you are seeking information, your local adoption agency can assist you. Click on this link to locate the adoption agencies near me. They are available to help you throughout this important journey.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

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Birth Father Consent: Can I Choose Adoption in Missouri Without the Birth Father’s Permission?

Birth Father Consent: Can I Choose Adoption in Missouri Without the Birth Father’s Permission?

By Alex Reza

It is possible that your unplanned pregnancy has complicated your relationship with the birth father. Rest assured that this is not unusual. You will need the birth father’s consent to put your baby up for adoption as. Generally speaking, a child cannot be put up for adoption without the consent of both parents. The birth father does have rights that must be taken into account when adoption is involved. However, some exceptions may apply. 

 Depending upon the circumstances between you and the birth father, you may be able to move forward without his consent. For example, if the father of your child denies he is the legitimate parent and denies paternity. There may also be an instance where the birth father’s identity is unknown to you, or if known, the court could determine that he is unfit to care for your child or that he abandoned the child. It is imperative in Missouri and most state that your child’s welfare is of primary concern.

That is why Adoption Choices of Missouri is available to help guide you through this complex issue of consent. Each adoption situation is unique, and each state’s adoption laws are different. Our adoption specialists will help you determine the best course of action to proceed with your adoption plan, and they will provide expert legal representation. For further help, please click on this link: adoption agencies near me.

How does the state of Missouri define a birth father?

birth father is the biological father of a child, so your child would share DNA with this individual. If a man is married to you at the time of your child’s birth or is a registered partner, he will be considered the child’s legal father or a presumed father. If you are not married, then legally, he would be considered a putative father. For more information about the different types of both fathers please consult your adoption specialist.

As a putative father, he would need to establish his paternity with the court system no later than fifteen days after your child’s birth, and he must file with the putative father registry. If the birth or putative father consents to the adoption, he will no longer have any future interest in the child, and he terminates his parental rights.

We understand that this may seem like a complicated process. However, adoption agencies in Missouri, along with an assigned adoption attorney, can assist you in navigating the laws governing adoption. Our aim is to make this entire process less stressful for you. In addition, you will have a Birth Parent Counselor to help you understand all the intricacies of adoption and which course of action would be best for you and your child.

Navigating the process of consent with the birth father

Generally, the birth mother has more importance and leverage when it comes to making the decisions about giving a baby up for adoption. If the birth father has abandoned your child for at least six months before you put your baby up for adoption, his consent will not be required. Also, if the birth father denies the paternity of your child, then again, his consent is not necessary.

To help determine the necessity of the birth father’s consent, please contact your local adoption agency. We will help you understand the legal requirements of adoption in Missouri. If the birth father agrees with you to place your child up for adoption, the adoption process will not be complicated. He will just need to give his written consent before a judge or notary public and provide two witnesses to his signature on the document.

As a full-service, licensed adoption agency, Adoption Choices of Missouri is here to guide you through this process. For further help, please click on this link to find adoption agencies near me to provide you with all the resources you will need to protect your adoption rights as a birth mother and obtain the free legal representation necessary to assist in the consent process.

The importance of an adoption plan

Depending on your relationship with the birth father during your pregnancy, it is important to have an adoption plan

This will be very helpful if your relationship with the birth father is complicated, abusive, or contentious. In these cases, it is possible to proceed with the adoption without his consent. Of utmost importance are the safety of you and your child. If the birth father is absent or does not want to acknowledge he is the father, a judge can grant you sole parental rights. This will allow you to proceed with the adoption without the birth father’s involvement.

In addition, an adoption plan will provide you with counseling, legal advice, prenatal care during your pregnancy, financial support, and safe housing if needed. Most importantly, we will provide you with emotional support throughout your adoption journey. We are here for you to help out in any way we can!

If you are a woman considering adoption and seeking information on the process, your local adoption agency can assist you. Click on this link to locate the adoption agencies near me. They are available to help you throughout this important journey.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond. Please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

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2021 Adoption Tax Credit

2021 Adoption Tax Credit

The 2021 tax filing season is upon us! The Internal Revenue Service recommends taxpayers take time to determine if they are eligible for important tax credits. Many of our adoptive families will be applying for the Adoption Tax Credit. With that in mind, we have compiled some basic information about the 2021 adoption tax credit.

Adoption Tax Credit 101 – for 2021 adoptions (claimed in early 2022)

If you have done any research into adoption financing, you’ve probably heard about the Federal Adoption Tax Credit. But what exactly is this credit, and how does it work?

The Federal Adoption Tax Credit is a non-refundable tax credit that helps families offset the costs of qualifying adoption expenses. Families who paid qualifying adoption expenses in 2021, and owe taxes, may be eligible to benefit from this credit. For adoptions finalized in 2021, there is a federal adoption tax credit of up to $14,440 per child. The 2021 adoption tax credit is NOT refundable, which means taxpayers can only use the credit if they have federal income tax liability.

Parents who are adopting from the U.S. and claiming qualified adoption expenses can claim the credit the year of finalization or the year after they spent the funds. Parents who adopt a child with special needs and are not basing their request on expenses should claim the credit the year of finalization. Parents who adopt internationally cannot claim the credit until the year of finalization.

The credit applies one time for each adopted child and should be claimed when taxpayers file taxes for 2021.

To be eligible for the credit, parents must:

  • Have adopted a child other than a stepchild — A child must be either under 18 or be physically or mentally unable to take care of him or herself.
  • Be within the income limits — Income affects how much of the credit parents can claim. The credit begins to phase out for taxpayers with modified adjusted gross income (MAGI) in excess of $223,410, and it’s completely phased out at $263,410 or more.

According to the IRS, “qualified adoption expenses” can include items like:

  • Reasonable and necessary adoption fees
  • Court costs and attorney fees
  • Traveling expenses related to adoption
  • Other expenses that are directly related to and for the principal purpose of the legal adoption of an eligible child

If you’re not sure whether you are eligible to use the adoption tax credit or if you paid qualifying adoption expenses in 2021, a tax professional will be able to provide more information.

How Much is the 2021 Adoption Tax Credit?

The amount families are eligible to receive from the Federal Adoption Tax Credit depends on a number of factors and will vary based on their unique situation. Families who finalize the adoption of a child with special needs in 2021 and fulfill the eligibility requirements above, can claim the full credit of $14,4400 whether or not they had any expenses.

Other adopters can claim a credit based on their qualified adoption expenses, which are the reasonable and necessary expenses paid to complete the adoption that have not been reimbursed by anyone else. If the expenses are less than $14,4400, the adopters claim only the amount of those expenses. However, if the expenses exceed $14,4400, the adopters can claim up to, but no more than, $14,4400, per child.

The Adoption Tax Credit limit is based on modified adjusted gross income (MAGI) and is recalculated each year based on current cost of living. Income affects how much of the credit parents can claim. For the 2021 Adoption Tax Credit, families with a MAGI below $216,660 can claim full credit. The credit begins to phase out for taxpayers with modified adjusted gross income (MAGI) in excess of $216,660, and it’s completely phased out at $256,660 or more.

Adoption and taxes can be complicated, and you will likely have questions about the tax benefits available in your specific situation. While we hope you find the information in this post helpful, keep in mind that Adoption Choices does not offer tax advice. Talk to a tax professional for more specific information about how the Adoption Tax Credit can benefit your family.

2022 Adoption Tax Credit – If you adopt a child in 2022, the credit maximum amount will be $14,890 with an AGI phaseout threshold of $223,410 to $263,410.

2020 Adoption Tax Credit – for the past tax year 2020, the maximum adoption credit was $14,300 per child with a phaseout range of $214,520 – $254,520.

Interaction with the Child Tax Credit

The Child Tax Credit changed in 2018. The amount is now $2,000 per child, but only $1,400 of it can become the refundable additional child tax credit (dependent on the family’s earned income), with the remaining $600 a non-refundable Child Tax Credit.  This credit will supersede the adoption tax credit when reducing the tax liability.

To determine the amount of the Child Tax Credit and Additional Child Tax Credit a family uses, a family must complete the Child Tax Credit Worksheet in IRS Publication 972.  Software and tax preparers will automatically calculate these amounts.

Taxpayers who can answer “Yes” on the last line of the Child Tax Credit Worksheet may be eligible for the Additional Child Tax Credit, which is a refundable credit (meaning they can claim the credit regardless of their tax liability). To claim the Additional Child Tax Credit, parents must complete IRS Schedule 8812.

How Much Taxpayers Will Benefit

How much, if any, of the adoption tax credit a parent will receive depends on their federal income tax liability in 2020 (and the next five years). In one year, taxpayers can use as much of the credit as the full amount of their federal income tax liability, which is the amount on line 11 of the Form 1040 less certain other credits (see Child Tax Credit above). Even those who normally get a refund may still have tax liability and could get a larger refund with the adoption tax credit. Taxpayers have six years (the year they first claimed the credit plus five additional years) to use the credit.

People who do not have federal income tax liability will not benefit this year. We encourage them to claim the credit and carry it forward to future years since the credit may become refundable again in the future.

Claiming the Adoption Tax Credit

To claim the credit, taxpayers will complete a 2021 version of IRS Form 8839 (available at in early 2022) and submit it with their Form 1040 when they file their 2021 taxes. Most tax software will create this form for you. Before filing, taxpayers should review 2021 Form 8839 instructions (will also be available at very carefully to be sure that they apply for the credit correctly and to see if anything has changed. The instructions are needed to calculate how much of the credit will be used.

When claiming the adoption tax credit, you’ll want to be ready with documents such as:

  • The final adoption decree
  • A placement agreement from an authorized agency
  • Court documents
  • A state’s determination for special-needs children, if applicable

This is a lot of information, and you probably have more questions about the tax credit for adopting a child in your specific situation. Adoption Choices does not offer tax advice and recommends that you talk to your tax professional for specific information on how the Adoption Tax Credit can benefit your family.

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Do I Have to Tell the Birth Father About an Adoption Plan?

Do I Have to Tell the Birth Father About an Adoption Plan?

As a birth mother, you may have a great relationship with your baby’s birth father, or you might not even know who the birth father is. Maybe you aren’t on speaking terms with the birth father, or perhaps you’ve lost contact with him. Regardless of the situation, your baby has a birth father, and there may be some concern over whether or not he will be included in the adoption plan. 

Due to legal requirements, there is an extent to which the birth father will be involved, even at a private adoption agency like Adoption Choices of Missouri. Many states will require the birth mother to post an adoption announcement in the legal advertising portion of the newspaper, which is meant to inform any potential birth father of the decision to give a baby up for adoption. Talk to your legal advisor or adoption caseworker for more information about the legal requirements of adoption and consent. Our adoption agency in Missouri has gone through this process many times and is prepared to guide you through it with as much clarity and ease as possible. 

How Involved Can the Birth Father Be?

It is important that any birth mother follows the requirements to receive the birth father’s consent for the adoption to prevent any complications in the future. After this requirement is fulfilled, involvement varies from case to case. In some situations, such as many teen pregnancy cases, after the consent, the birth father may choose how much involvement he has in the adoption process, although this does not have to be true for every situation. Speak to your adoption caseworker for more information about the birth father’s role and responsibilities.

If you have a good relationship, the birth father can be just as involved as you, the birth mother. He can help decide the future family of your baby and guide you as you figure out all the details of your adoption plan. The birth father can provide a great form of support for birth mothers. Yet, there are cases where birth mothers have a negative relationship with the birth father and may have a hard time involving them in the adoption plan. If things get complicated between you and the birth father, Adoption Choices of Missouri is equipped to assist you in sorting out any disruptions between you and the birth father. 

Do I Get the Final Say in the Adoption Journey?

If the birth father wants to be involved in the adoption plan throughout the adoption process, he has a right to contribute. Although interacting with the birth father may cause pain and negative feelings to resurface, if he genuinely desires to help in the adoption plan, keep in mind that the process is meant to provide a secure future for your child. Thus, allowing feelings to get in the way of the valuable insight he may provide to the process may not be what’s best for your child’s future. 

So, Do I Tell the Baby’s Birth Father About the Adoption Plan?

The various requirements of the adoption process can get complicated. Speaking to an adoption caseworker or legal advisor can help clarify how to approach the situation. This news may be harder for some to take than others, but if considering adoption is the best choice for your child, in the long run, letting the complication of figuring out who the birth father is or concern over his consent steer you away from choosing it would be detrimental. Ultimately, as a birth mother, try to approach the feelings the birth father may have with grace and understanding because your child is his child too. Discuss with him the courage and love it takes to choose the route of adoption for your child and come to an agreement together on how to deal with your pregnancy if possible for more information on the adoption process and what next steps you can take with your pregnancy, contact Adoption Choices of Missouri

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

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Self-Care Tips For Birth Moms During The Adoption Process

Self-Care Tips For Birth Moms During The Adoption Process

Are you pregnant and considering adoption in Kansas City, Missouri? If you are looking for self-care tips for women during the Missouri adoption process, have you considered a healthy diet, exercise, prenatal massage or spa treatments, meditation, following doctor’s orders, or even taking part in something fun like a hobby or quick getaway? All of these options are great ways to cope with any anxiety, issues, or concerns throughout your unplanned pregnancy and the Missouri adoption process. Adoption Choices of Missouri understands the importance of self-care. Here are a number of self-care tips for birth moms going through the adoption process:

Healthy, Unplanned Pregnancy: Healthy Diet

Whether or not you are placing your child up for adoption in Kansas City, a healthy diet is a great way to take care of yourself and have a healthy pregnancy. Try to include healthy fats, fiber-rich carbohydrates, and proteins. Foods with folic acid are also good at aiding in your baby’s neural tube growth, prevents neurological birth defects, and prevents anemia for you. Such recommended foods include leafy greens, cooked fish, chicken, beans, yogurt, milk, nuts, and seeds.

Healthy, Unplanned Pregnancy: Exercise

If you are putting your child up for adoption in Missouri, low-impact exercise can also aid in a healthy pregnancy, while aiding in your own self-care whilst going through the Missouri adoption process. Yoga, taking a walk, swimming, stationary cycling, aerobics, pilates, and strength training are all good examples of ways you can exercise and work off any stress. Exercise is good to treat anxiety and depression, aid in brain function, lower blood pressure, and aid in cardiovascular health as well.

Unplanned Pregnancy Self-Care and Stress Relief

If you need something to take your mind off of the Missouri adoption process or relax and have some fun, a brief getaway or hobby can help. Missouri has some great sights to see, such as the Missouri Botanical Gardens. You can always take in the fresh air and nature, absorb some sun, and take a nice walk through the gardens to unwind and release tension. There are many great museums, zoos, and other tourist attractions you can go to and see to have some fun.

A hobby is another great way to help your mind focus on something and relax. Painting, crocheting, knitting, reading, or journaling are all great hobbies you can take part in. There may be some groups or clubs in your community you can join to do these activities with and seek some company, as well.

Self-Care and Stress Relief During An Unplanned Pregnancy

A good way to relax during your pregnancy and the Missouri adoption process is a prenatal massage. Prenatal massage is a good way to increase cardiovascular health, improve sleep, and reduce back and joint pain. Just as prenatal massage can aid you in these ways, meditation can also be of use. There are many guided meditations online through videos, apps, music, and podcasts to help you. Essential oils can also help you relax and get into the right mindset for relaxation and meditation. Remember, meditation can aid in sleep and rest is an important thing to get a lot of throughout pregnancy.

Unplanned Pregnancy: Medical Health

If you are placing your child up for adoption in Missouri, to ensure you have a healthy pregnancy, be sure to take your prenatal vitamins and attend all of your OB/GYN doctor’s appointments. Prenatal vitamins contain folic acid to aid in neurological tubular growth and development. You can always get them over the counter at your local pharmacy. Your doctor is also here to help you address any concerns, no matter how small.

Unplanned Pregnancy: Mental Health

Anxiety, grief, and depression, or postpartum depression are possibilities during and/or after your unplanned pregnancy, especially during the Missouri adoption process. Know that We are here to help and support you in any way, especially by listening to you and aiding in any mental health issues. We have a relationship with New Perspectives Therapeutic Services, a great counseling service ready to aid in assisting you throughout and following the Missouri adoption process.

Missouri Adoption Self-Care Tips for Birth Moms

We hope you appreciated these tips for self-care. Adoption Choices of Missouri understands the importance of self-care throughout the Missouri adoption process. We also understand the difficulty of this time and how much stress you may be under. Self-care can be very helpful during this time. Know that you are not alone and we are here for you. These tips are only suggestions to help you through this time and process. We are ready to help you through this process. We are here to provide support; rely on us if you need anything at all.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

CarlyMeet the author: Carly is a recent graduate of Connecticut College with a dual degree in Psychology and Italian Studies. Graduating Cum Laude with honors in both Psychology and Italian departments, Carly has a background in gender-related research through the Connecticut College Psychology Department and Honors Theses Program. When not trying to figure out life or working, Carly is reading historical fiction novels or playing with her black cat, Isabelle.

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Why MO Adoption is a Wonderful Process

Why MO Adoption is a Wonderful Process

Having an unexpected or unplanned pregnancy is always a tough experience, but it is nothing to be afraid of because you have options. One of these options is MO adoption. Whether your reason to go with the adoption process is that you do not feel ready to be a parent, financial reasons, or unsupportive family members, adoption is always a good choice. Here at Adoption Choices of Missouri, our staff is ready to help you.

How Do I Know If Adoption Is For Me?

How women come to the choice of adoption is different for everyone. It can be because of the reasons mentioned above or because they do not wish to terminate their pregnancy. Either way, if you are dealing with any of those reasons and do not wish to terminate your pregnancy, then our pregnant adoption help could be for you. Adoption in MO is a wonderful opportunity to help ensure that your unborn child has the future that you want them to have. We know that the MO adoption process can seem scary, but we are here to help you through the process. 

Other Reasons Adoption in Missouri Can Be For You

On top of the reasons mentioned above, there are some others that birth mothers might deal with that leads them to decide to choose the MO adoption process. Some birth mothers choose adoption because they feel that they are not mentally ready and prepared to raise a child. Mental health is very important, and if you are not mentally ready and prepared to raise a child, then adoption can be for you. It is okay to have this feeling, and there is nothing wrong with it. Another reason that birth mothers choose adoption is a medical condition. You could have a medical condition, and you can feel that with this condition, it would be difficult to raise a child. There is nothing wrong with feeling this way. Here at Adoption Choices of Missouri, our staff is here to support you on your journey.

If You Wish to Ensure Your Baby’s Future Then Adoption is For You!

Adoption is a wonderful opportunity to ensure your baby’s future. If you decide to work with us, we will make sure that you have all the information you need to create an adoption plan that you feel safe and comfortable with. Heading into the adoption process, we know there is a common misconception that you will not have a say in the process or your adoption plan. That is not the case when you work with us here at Adoption Choices of Missouri. When you work with us, we are here to help guide and support you. You will be assigned a caseworker who will provide you with all the information you need to get your adoption plan started and created. 

You Are in Control of Your MO Adoption Plan!

The adoption process is nothing to be afraid of. During the adoption process, you will be in complete control of how your adoption plan is. Our staff will answer any questions you have about the adoption process. You get to decide on what type of adoption plan you want to have, the adoptive family or parent, and the type of communication you have with the adoptive family or parent after you have given birth and they are officially the parents of the baby. 

Contact Us Today! Adoption Choices of Missouri Is Here To Help

Adoption Choices of Missouri is here for you. No matter what your reasoning is for going with the adoption process, our staff is here to help you and support you. We know Adoption in Missouri can be stressful, and if you work with us, we will do our best to make sure you have everything you need. Our mission is to help you build an adoption plan that you feel comfortable and secure with. We also want to make sure that you feel like your adoption plan is ensuring your baby’s future. You can find out contact information on our website.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

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While writing about sports and creating content about sports is Nick’s passion. He also is very passionate about playing sports as well. He grew up playing baseball, basketball, and racing motocross. Nick still does his best to ride and race motocross when he has time, but he has been focusing on his schooling and another one of his passions, gaming. Nick is an avid gamer, and he is even a streamer on Twitch. He has built up a fan base to be a part of the Twitch Affiliate program.


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5 Tips For A Healthy Pregnancy Before Adoption in MO

5 Tips For A Healthy Pregnancy Before Adoption in MO

Regardless of your choice if you are pregnant considering adoption or if you choose to parent your child, the need to live a healthy lifestyle remains the same. Pregnancy not only changes your body but also takes a lot of its resources. Through hormonal changes, fatigue, and other symptoms, getting used to changing your life is challenging enough, and maintaining healthy eating habits can get tough. Your doctor may have already prescribed a prenatal supplement, but this does not replace healthy food. There may also be foods that you previously loved that you must now forgo or cut back on. The change, though, is not impossible. We at Adoption Choices of Missouri want to help you keep a healthy lifestyle for your health and the health of your unborn child. Below are five tips for a healthy pregnancy before adoption in MO.

Go To All Of Your Medical Appointments And Keep The Adoptive Parents Informed

Neglecting your appointments is far too easy to do, but checking in should be one of your top priorities. You might have some anxieties, and having a doctor to answer those questions and see if everything’s going smooth will ease the nerves. They will also inform you of any complications and let you know your options. Your child’s adoptive family should also be in the know of what’s going on, so they can adapt.

Exercise and Move Your Body Throughout your Pregnancy

Exercise is often praised for weight loss benefits, but there are many other ways it can help you too. Even light-intensity exercises such as walking a few times a week can help. Although heavy lifting is not recommended for pregnant women, moderate exercise is safe. Exercise helps with stress, blood circulation, energy, sleep, strengthening muscles, and more. Talk to your doctor about your exercise routine to see what he or she recommends. Contact your healthcare provider for more information.

Eliminate Unwanted Toxins During Your Pregnancy

You can’t avoid every toxin, but cutting it down will reduce the risks of birth defects and other problems for your baby as he or she grows. Environmental toxins can be made or natural. Many of the ways you can cut down on toxins are easy and will give your baby the best chance at health. Three things you can do to avoid toxins include:

  • Avoid BPAs: BPA stands for bisphenol-A. It’s used in resins and polymers, but unfortunately, disrupts hormones that already fluctuate during pregnancy. You can reduce your exposure to BPAs by swapping plastic water bottles and containers for glass, avoiding canned soup, and using gloves when handling a lot of paper receipts. Occasionally, touching a receipt is harmless, but if you work as a cashier or perform another job with a lot of them, BPAs are permeable through the skin. 
  • Avoid phthalates: Phthalates are in plastics like BPAs, but they are also in beauty products such as lotion and nail polishes and fragrance products like candles and perfumes. They disrupt hormones and the endocrine system. Replace scented products with essential oils and buy phthalate-free products.
  • Avoid PFCs: PFC means perfluorinated chemicals, which you will get most of your exposure from non-stick cookware. These chemicals can limit the growth of your baby and affect brain and organ development. Cast iron and glass cookware are safe alternatives. Beware of lead if you use ceramic.

Avoid Certain Foods Through Your Adoption Journey

Your physician has already advised eating a balanced diet. Chances are, you were already briefed on the dangers of alcohol and smoking during pregnancy. In today’s environment, though, there are other things you will have to consider reducing your intake of due to toxins. These things include:

  • Fish with higher levels of mercury: this includes tuna, King mackerel, marlin, swordfish, Orange roughy, shark, and tilefish. 
  • Raw or undercooked eggs, seafood, meat, and poultry: You are at increased risk of bacterial food poisoning. Use a thermometer to make sure your foods are cooked to the right temperature, and cook eggs until both whites and yolks are firm.
  • Unpasteurized milk or juice.
  • Excess caffeine

Take Care and Eat A Balanced Diet to Maintain a Healthy Pregnancy Before Adoption in MO

Eating healthy is a challenge for a lot of people, but remember to do the same while pregnant comes with myths. Your nutrition needs will go up, but your calorie needs won’t increase much. A well-balanced diet includes whole grains, fruits, vegetables, calcium, and other vitamins and minerals. Consult with your doctor for your calorie needs throughout your pregnancy. 

Prenatal vitamins are made to help fill in any gaps, but there is no substitute for a good diet. Folic acid, a B vitamin, is important and has lower the risk of a neural tube defect in babies such as spina bifida. Choline also helps prevent birth defects in the brain and spine. However, it is often not included in prenatal supplements, so talk to your doctor about choline supplements.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves women facing unplanned pregnancies serving over 100 women annually. Our counselors give support and help and are committed to supporting the women we serve regardless of the choice they make.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

SenneaMeet the author: Seannea Wharton is a student at Miami University majoring in English. As of now, she is working on her first novel, starting a book blog, and learning American Sign Language. She was raised in a suburban town in New Jersey and has various hobbies such as gardening, cooking, and crocheting. She enjoys learning about a wide range of topics and loves finding new books to read.


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Placing Your Second Baby Up For Adoption With The Same Adoptive Family

Placing Your Second Baby Up For Adoption With The Same Adoptive Family

Have you placed a child up for adoption in Missouri in the past? Are you now pregnant and considering adoption again? Are you contemplating placing your second baby up for adoption in Missouri, just as you did in the past?  Adoption Choices of Missouri knows these situations exist and wants to help you. It can often be beneficial to both birth parents and their children if the children are placed with the same family as their biological siblings.

Placing Your Second Baby Up For Adoption

A great thing about choosing the same family for both your children is that you know the family. You went through the Missouri adoption process and knew the family you chose the last time you went through this process. They are not strangers, and if you have an open adoption, you know how they treat your elder child and if this child is truly being raised the way you wish them to be raised.

This could make your choice of who to adopt your second child an easier decision than the first time you made it. You have a relationship with these people and may even feel like they are an extended family to you. Wanting your second child to be raised with, in the same household, and in the same way as their elder sibling can be a beautiful wish. It can be a load of stress off of you to know the perfect family is out there, ready to be picked by you because you have already picked them. They have also already been approved by your Kansas City, Missouri adoption agency in the past and have gone through this process before.

Adopting More Than One Kid

However, before you get your hopes up, know that they may not be ready to adopt another child if you have not discussed this with the adoptive family yet. The family may not be financially ready for another child, may not have the space, or may not want to raise a second child. Unfortunately, if this is the case, you have to accept this and look for another family for your second child. Luckily, you have been through this process before and know what you are looking for in a family for your baby.

Missouri Adoption Agreement With Your Child’s Adoptive Family

If you haven’t been in contact with the family that adopted your first child, you can try to reach out through your Kansas City, Missouri adoption agency caseworker. Do you have an open adoption with your first child? If not, maybe you and the adoptive family should sit down and discuss this if you want an open adoption with your second child. The type of adoption you choose should be similar to the type of adoption you chose the first time around if both of your children will be living under the same roof.

It may be best for both children if you have the same adoption agreement if they are living together and being raised together. It isn’t very fair to one child to see you come visit their sibling and not have any contact with them. If the children know they are related and were both placed up for adoption by you, it may be best for them to receive the same type of treatment. If you visit one child, the other would feel left out if you did not visit or show you thought of them as well.

Open Adoption: Visitation

Another thing to keep in mind when visiting the children is the amount of attention you give both of them. Visiting one child, you can give him or her all of your attention, but visiting two or more can mean you may need to divide up your attention for each of them. As with all siblings, older siblings often feel they need more attention to keep up with the new baby sibling’s attention. If you have an open adoption and visit the children, maybe keep this in mind when interacting with them on visits.

Communication and Adoption Agreement With The Adoptive Family

If the family is alright with adopting your second baby and raising both children together, make a plan and decide with the adoptive family if you will talk about what is happening before or after the second baby’s delivery with their sibling. If there is a possibility you will change your mind about parenting, maybe you should wait until after the birth and then decide with the family how to explain this to the older sibling who the family adopted first. Decide what to say if the baby is the other child’s half or full sibling. Depending on how old the elder child is, they may need to have this explained to them, or you and the family may decide the half or full status does not matter and does not need to be disclosed. That is your decision as a familial unit discussing how to handle all of this.

Our Kansas City Adoption Agency Will HelpYou Place Your Second Baby Up For Adoption

In the end, keep the channels of communication open. Think of what is best not only for yourself but for your children. If your elder child’s family is able to take their baby sibling, that is a wonderful thing. Just keep in mind that it is not always a viable option because not everyone is able to adopt more than one child, especially at the exact time you’re pregnant. Adoption Choices of Missouri knows how precarious these situations can seem, and we want to help you make this dream a reality, but we are also ready to help you find the perfect family for your new baby if plan A falls through. We hope it won’t, but we are ready to support you in any way we can.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll-free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 816-527-9800

CarlyMeet the author: Carly is a recent graduate of Connecticut College with a dual degree in Psychology and Italian Studies. Graduating Cum Laude with honors in both Psychology and Italian departments, Carly has a background in gender-related research through the Connecticut College Psychology Department and Honors Theses Program. When not trying to figure out life or working, Carly is reading historical fiction novels or playing with her black cat, Isabelle.

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Unplanned Pregnancy Help; Adoption Agencies Near Me in Missouri

Unplanned Pregnancy Help; Adoption Agencies Near Me in Missouri

If you are pregnant and you do not want to parent a child or if you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and you do not want a baby, we are an adoption agency near you who can help now. A pregnant woman who finds herself in this situation, knowing she doesn’t want to be a mother may be considering adoption. We have adoption professionals ready to help now. We can provide free information about your pregnancy and adoption options in Missouri, Adoption Choices of Missouri is here for birth mothers.

Unplanned Pregnancy Options in Missouri

When you’re facing an unexpected, unwanted, or unplanned pregnancy in Missouri, or somewhere else in the United States, you have three choices that you can make:

  • Parenting your child
  • Adoption and relinquishing parental rights to a chosen adoptive family
  • Abortion or terminating your pregnancy

Adoption Choices of Missouri specializes in private newborn adoption and working with pregnant women and pregnant teens in Missouri who choose adoption. However, we are not here to judge you, coerce you, nor force you into choosing adoption. We will discuss ALL your pregnancy options and go over in detail why adoption might be (or might not be) the best choice for you. We always want you to do what is best for your life and the future of your child.

By calling or texting 816-527-9800, you can receive free information about private adoption and learn about your unplanned pregnancy options in Missouri. Gaining as much information as possible will help you to make the best possible decision for yourself. You’ll also have the opportunity to speak with adoption professionals – Amy or Kate or Heather – who have their own personal experiences with adoption and can directly relate to the emotions, fear, or overwhelm you are experiencing.

Facts About Adoption in Missouri

Maybe you are considering adoption as an option for your unplanned pregnancy in Missouri, but you have some concerns about the Missouri adoption process. These questions and concerns are normal, and they are a sign that you truly want to make the best possible choice for yourself and your baby. Here are some common fears about adoption in Missouri for unplanned pregnancy, and the facts behind those fears:

  • If you’re worried about the cost of adoption, please know that adoption is always free for birth parents, you may also qualify for living expenses and financial support.
  • If you’re worried about placing your baby with strangers, be confident in knowing that you can choose the adoptive family, meet them, and even get to know them. And with the semi open or open adoption, you can maintain contact with them and your child post-placement.
  • If you’re worried about feeling confused through the adoption process, you should know that you will have legal representation, access to medical care, and professional counseling before and after the adoption is provided to you for free. You will also be assigned an adoption specialist to work with you throughout the process and provide any other Missouri adoption services you need.
  • If you’re worried you will feel guilty or regret choosing adoption, you should understand that adoption will be filled with many highs and many lows. It’s not uncommon for a woman to feel guilt or regret but she can also experience relief and joy. You may have heard adoption horror stories from the past but modern adoptions are much more accepted and women share positive, loving experiences.

To learn more about choosing adoption as an unplanned pregnancy option in Missouri, you can call or text Amy at 316-209-2071 any time to get free information and to ask questions about adoption or your situation with no obligation. You can also reach us online here.

Facing an Unplanned Pregnancy in Missouri

Regardless of what you choose to do in response to an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy in Missouri – parent, adoption, or terminate – you deserve to be supported. This is a hard choice and one that we know, you will not make lightly. Educate yourself about parenting, abortion, and adoption in Missouri. Only you know what’s right for you regarding your pregnancy options in Missouri.

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more!
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Adoption Story with Author, Jennifer Asher – Now Available for Pre-Order

“I tried so hard at the beginning to force things to go my way. I eventually recognized that I needed to follow the signs when I was headed down the wrong path. When I let go of control a bit, and allowed the tide to direct me, everything worked out as it should.”

A powerful idea. A brave expedition. We hear it constantly on this journey to have a baby, grow our family, or extend our family, right? Don’t force things. Just relax. Go with the flow. Stay positive, have faith, don’t stress… But sometimes hearing it from someone who has actually worn the shoes, been there, done that, and even wrote a book about it – we can listen more closely and too, let go – even if just a little bit – of our control and as Jennifer puts it, allow the universe to conspire.

Jennifer and Marc adopted a baby in 2001 from Adoption Choices of Oklahoma. After multiple miscarriages, their journey through adoption took them across the world and back and ultimately landed in Oklahoma. All they knew from the beginning is that they wanted the entire process to be done quickly. International adoption was their chosen route and specifically, Vietnam, was their destination.

Jennifer details in her book, Journey to My Daughter, the sometimes difficult, often surprising, and looking back hilarious obstacles along the way. Knowing Jennifer and Marc have a beautiful 20 year old daughter doesn’t deter the edge of the seat craving for ‘what happened next!?’ When they say “This child was meant to be our child!” you too, feel it in your soul!

Jennifer first wrote the book, 20 years ago to her daughter. She knew from the beginning to get it all in ink, to remember the details, so she could later share the full report with her. The adoption was no secret and in fact, they maintained an opportunity for an open adoption after placement with the birth parents. Over time the relationship has changed, new relationships have developed, and of course with social media, communication is simple and fast.

After much encouragement Jennifer shares her story in this compelling memoir detailing miscarriage, adoption, and self-discovery. In hopes to be published in December, Jennifer has created a campaign to help reach funding for publishing. If everything feels like it’s going wrong, this adoption story will help you realize you are being led to everything that is right! Plus, pre-order means exclusive rewards!

  • You will receive a personally signed copy of Journey to My Daughter with a handwritten thank-you note.
  • Your name will appear in the Acknowledgments section of the book (“with Special Thanks to”).
  • You will receive early access to the Introduction and some excerpts from the book, with the opportunity to review it and give early feedback.
  • You will have the opportunity to be involved in selecting the cover and author photo.
  • You will be invited to join Jennifer’s Author Community and get behind-the-scenes sneak peeks into the publishing process.
  • And much more!

Place your order for Journey to My Daughter now! <— Click Here!!

Jennifer is offering an exclusive perk for Adoption Choices adoptive families. She is prepared to help you help your child understand their adoption story by helping you create the language for your own personalized book for your child. Most adoptive parents understand the importance of talking to their adopted child about their adoption story and adoption identity. However, no matter how much preparation they do, some adoptive parents still wonder exactly how to talk to their child about adoption in a positive way that they can understand.

With Jennifer’s expertise – which will include a one-on-one consultation – she will help you develop a clear understanding for your child and express your excitement and gratitude about the way your child came into your life. Putting your adoption story in writing provides a concrete story that can be referred to again and again throughout their childhood!

This opportunity is only available to Adoption Choices adoptive families and is only available for a short time!

For more information, you can connect with Jennifer at
Facebook: or @Jennifer Rose Asher
Instagram: or @jenniferroseasher
Twitter: @Jenrasher

Adoption Choices of Missouri serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call us toll free at 877-903-4488 or, in Missouri call or text us at 1-816-527-9800