Can I Place My Baby for Adoption with the Same Adoption Agency I used Before?
Tips for Birth Mothers who are Experiencing a Second Unplanned Pregnancy
Experiencing an unplanned pregnancy for the second time can have you feeling overwhelmed. In fact, it may seem like you are on an emotional roller coaster — especially if you’ve just recently placed your first baby for adoption and your circumstances haven’t changed. That’s okay and completely understandable. Choosing adoption once is hard enough, so being faced with it again so soon doesn’t help.
You may be wondering: I’m pregnant again. Can I place my baby for adoption with the same adoption agency I used before? Will I be judged for getting pregnant again so soon? I can’t be a mother right now. What do I do?
Adoption Choices of Missouri is here to let you know that no matter if this is your first or fourth unplanned pregnancy, you can absolutely place your baby for adoption with us. Our licensed adoption agency is a non-judgemental facility. We welcome multiple placements and will not turn you away. No matter what your circumstances, we will provide you with the kindness, care and support you deserve as a birth mother.
Placing Your Baby with the Same Adoption Agency
To begin, we want to set your mind at ease. Multiple placements are more common than you think, so there’s no need to worry about that part of it. You will be treated with just as much respect, compassion and support as you did any other time you worked with us. That will not change. So, you should feel right at home. After all, you’ve walked with us before and have established a relationship with us. You know what to expect and were confident that you provided your child a chance at a better life.
If you choose to place another baby with our adoption agency, you know that Adoption Choices of Missouri will guide you through every step of your adoption journey and ensure that your experience will be just as empowering and positive as last time. You can even work with the same adoption caseworker, if you’d like.
Going Through the Adoption Process Again
Placing a second child for adoption may seem like a tough choice. However, it may be a little less stressful as you have gone through this process before. You can decide to do things similarly, or you can try something different. It’s completely up to you.
Although you might know what to expect, that does not take away from feeling a whirlwind of emotions.This time around, you may experience different things than you did the first time, such as feelings of guilt, uncertainty or increased anxiety. As a birth mother, these feelings are perfectly natural. You can even speak with a birth parent counselor or join a support group to help process and work through these feelings throughout your adoption journey.
Placing Your Child with Your First Child’s Adoptive Family
If you have a strong connection with your first child’s adoptive family, you can ask your adoption caseworker if it’s possible to place your second child with them. This way, your children can grow up and bond with their biological siblings. As an agency, we do everything we can to give your children a chance to grow up together. However, it’s important to remember that it’s up to your first child’s adoptive parents if they are able or willing to adopt a second child.
In some cases, adoptive parents are more than happy to welcome a sibling into the family, which can give you great comfort and reassurance as a birth mother. If the adoptive parents are unable to do this, though, it may be for a variety of different reasons. But don’t worry. Your adoption caseworker will do what they can to ensure that your children are able to remain in contact and establish a relationship with each other, even from two different adoptive families.
Can I Place My Baby through the Same Adoption Agency?
Second time adoption may come with a lot of anxiety as you are placing another one of your children for adoption. However, going through the adoption process a second time, you may have a more detailed adoption plan than you had previously and a better idea of how the process works. You may also choose to do things differently this time, too, if you want other kinds of opportunities for your second child.
But no matter if you are a second time birth mother or fourth, you will get the understanding and comfort you need. Our licensed adoption professionals will hear your concerns throughout your adoption journey. No matter how many times you travel down the road of adoption as a birth mother, Adoption Choices of Missouri is here to support you and will make sure that your child gets the loving home that he or she deserves.
Meet the Author: Samara Wiley is a published author of poetry, essays, and an environmental children’s storybook called, Waiting for the Water Fairy. She graduated from Benedictine University in 2018 with a double Bachelor of Arts in English Literature and French.She has been published in three small poetry anthologies one was called Talented.
Her other writing accomplishments include: winning a high school poetry competition and $2500 for her high school, having two out of her five novels be considered for publication and writing movie critic reviews for her university’s newsletter.
Although she has Cerebral Palsy and has had a turbulent childhood, Samara puts these small specs of herself into her writing to personally connect with her audience. She prides herself on pushing the boundaries in her writing and in her personal life with everything she does. Samara writes with her heart and a voice of compassion, and loves to pull from her top passions in life.
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