Birth Mother FAQs

The decision to choose adoption is not an easy one to make on your own. Although it may be a difficult and painful choice, we will be there to provide support, including counseling if you would like.

Yes, you have the option of approving the parents who will be adopting your baby. Each family makes a picture profile, which is a mini-scrap book that tells you about their lives. The profiles we will present to you are filled with photos of the family, their vacations, their home and lots more. It will also include a “Dear Birth Mother” letter that addresses other frequently asked questions such as their likes and dislikes, hobbies, etc…

All of our prospective adoptive parents go through extensive background checks. Social workers meet them in their homes to interview them. The couples are required to provide a State Bureau of Investigation report and a child abuse clearance report as well as birth certificates, a copy of their marriage license, physician’s reports that include HIV test results, etc… Adoptive families are carefully screened.

Yes, if you wish they can come meet you before the baby is born and you can have as much or as little of a relationship with the adoptive family as you want. You also have the opportunity to talk with them over the phone throughout the pregnancy. You can call to let them know how your doctor’s visits are going. If the family is able, and you are willing, they can even attend a doctor’s appointment with you.

You will know as much information about the adoptive family as we can give to you without revealing their last names and addresses. However, if you prefer to have a closed adoption with the adoptive family, that is also available.

Yes, if the birth father will not give his consent, or if you are unable to locate him, the attorney for the agency will attempt to terminate his parental rights.

Your case worker will help you with transportation to and from your doctor’s visits and take you to pick up prescriptions. If further assistance is needed ,e.g., trips to the grocery store or a ride to work your case worker will be glad to help arrange that for you. We understand how important it is that you stay healthy and well taken care of.

The choice of adoption is always at no cost to the birth mother. We will help you find assistance in paying the medical bills. The portion of the medical expenses not covered by private insurance or by state funds will be provided by the adoptive family.

Your case workers will help you make that decision. You can see your baby as often as you want while you are in the hospital.

In most situations the adoptive family are at the hospital while the birth mother is in labor. If you would like, the family can even be in the delivery room with you. The agency suggests they come to Kansas a day or two before your estimated due date. If you deliver early they will be on the next flight out of their home town.

In extreme cases, when the adoptive family is unable to arrive before the baby is released from the hospital, we will place the baby in state licensed transitional care. The families who watch the children for this short period of time are screened as intensively as the adoptive family.

The consents to the adoption are not taken in front of a judge unless (1) a child falls under the Indian child or (2) the birth mother’s mental capacity is questioned.

We will provide an attorney for you as well as pay his or her fee. The agency will cover all of your legal fees for the adoption.

The agency will cover appropriate living expenses to birth mothers who need the help. We understand how difficult it is to get back on your feet and return to work after delivering a baby.

Ongoing correspondence is definitely an option for you as a birth mother. We require that the adoptive family be open to sending pictures and letters at least once a year until the child reaches the age of 18. You are also able to send the adoptive family letters and pictures for the baby through the agency.