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Adoption & The New Year: A Time For Healing And Growth 

By Alexis Watson

As the new year arrives, it provides a time for reflection and introspection. It is also a time for planning for the upcoming year and goal setting. Birth mothers reflecting on the next steps for their unplanned pregnancies will be experiencing a mixture of emotions. Some are considering giving their child up for adoption but are frightened by the process. Some are contemplating how they will achieve their goals while pregnant. Adoption in Missouri is a simple process, and our adoption specialists at Adoption Choices of Missouri are ready to help.  

Adoption Choices of Missouri is an open adoption agency that provides adoption services to birth mothers across Missouri. We provide support counseling to our birth mothers through every stage of the adoption process.  If eligible, we provide financial support, safe housing, and prenatal care. Our counselors will work closely with each birth mother to craft their unique and individual adoption plan

Adoption For The New Year 

Birth mothers considering adoption in the new year might be filled with questions and conflicting emotions. The new year is traditionally a period of self-reflection. It’s a time for checking the boxes on the goals and dreams you’ve been able to accomplish. It’s also a time for vision boards and new goals to be created. However, an unplanned pregnancy can make this traditional time feel slightly unnerving. Considering adoption while heading into the new year might stir up feelings of confusion, guilt, and uncertainty. However, adoption can be an empowering decision for birth mothers, adoptive families, and the child. 

Adoption can be a positive experience for everyone involved. Birth mothers will have a sense of fulfillment as their child will be with the adoptive family of their choice. The child will have a support system from both their adoptive family and their birth family. The adoptive family will have the opportunity to have and raise a child. Open adoption will allow for an open line of communication between the birth mother and the adoptive family. This form of adoption will foster a strong sense of identity and belonging. Adoption has many benefits for everyone involved.

Healing Journey Post-Placement

Considering adoption can be a frightening experience to think about as the process may be unclear. Trying to locate a local adoption agency might be overwhelming. However, those things should not deter you from beginning the process. Our adoption specialists at Adoption Choices of Missouri are here to connect birth mothers to the available resources. Once the adoption is finalized, our counselors encourage each of our birth mothers to create a self-care routine. 

The adoption process can be an emotionally taxing experience as different emotions can arise causing conflicting feelings. It is important that birth mothers, like yourself, are especially gentle with themselves as they are healing from the process. A great way to start the healing process is to develop and maintain a self-care routine. A self-care routine provides birth mothers with time to prioritize themselves and their well-being. 

Another way to support the healing process post-adoption is becoming involved in support groups. Meeting with other birth mothers and hearing their adoption journeys can be empowering. Connecting with someone else who has gone through the adoption process can feel less lonely. Advice, tips, and lessons learned are often shared during these safe spaces. These groups encourage birth mothers to accept their decisions without judgment. Support groups create a safe space for birth mothers to share their adoption experience authentically and confidentially. These groups are known for fostering connection, building community, and providing support. 

It’s important that birth mothers feel supported after making such a life-changing decision. Adoption is a rewarding experience not only for birth mothers but for the adoptive family and child. 

Life Passions Post-Adoption

Adoption is a life-altering decision. However, the emotional impact of this decision can leave you feeling a sense of grief and sadness. Your emotions are normal. As you heal and grow from your grief through self-care and support groups, it’s also important to discover new interests. 

Catering to your healing journey is an important step in the healing process post-adoption. Pursuing interests, fulfilling life goals, and discovering new passions are just as important. Accomplishing new passions provides birth mothers with a sense of personal growth and fulfillment. It’s important to continue to pursue your life’s dreams and discover new passions. 

Our Adoption Specialists Are Here To Help

If you’re considering adoption for your unplanned pregnancy, our experts at Adoption Choices of Missouri are here to assist you.  Our adoption specialists are trained to provide emotional support through counseling and connection. We provide each of our birth mothers with financial assistance for basic living expenses if eligible. If available, we also provide medical care for birth mothers interested in receiving prenatal care. 

If you need assistance with your unplanned pregnancy, give us a call today.