6 Interview Questions from a Birth Mother: Advice for New Birth Mothers
Going through an unplanned pregnancy can be an overwhelming experience. When I was going through my adoption journey, having an agency that understood me and listened to all my concerns was important to me as a birth mother. Working with Adoption Choices of Missouri, I gained the support that I needed by having my birth parent caseworker, Kim, work with me throughout my adoption journey.
My adoption experience was a positive open adoption with my birth child’s adoptive family. Through the agency, I became close to my adoption caseworker and became part of a new family. I have listed my six interview questions that your chosen adoption agency may ask you if you consider adoption for you and your baby.
Interview Questions from a Birth Mother
- How did you feel finding out you were pregnant?
When I discovered I was pregnant, it was a shock and unplanned, as I was only eight weeks along and only 28-years-old. I was hesitant to contact the birth father involved, as we weren’t really on speaking terms. However, I did get in touch with him, and he said he was not ready to be a father, but he stood by whatever decision I made.
- What was your pregnancy like?
My pregnancy was as normal as it could be, with all the aches and pains that come with being pregnant. I ate healthfully, for the most part, but always craved ice cream or something sweet. I gave birth to my daughter at 38 weeks; she weighed six pounds and five ounces, and I named her Holly.
My pregnancy journey was a bit different because I was doing it with the limited support of a partner. But, nevertheless, I had a healthy pregnancy and delivery.
- Why did you choose the path of adoption?
I chose to place my baby for adoption to give my daughter a better life. She deserves parents who can provide her with the great opportunities that I could not provide for her. I was not in a season in my life where I could give her what I wanted to. Adoption, for me, was a better choice for my child and me.
- How has your adoption journey been?
My adoption journey has been a positive experience, filled with endless guidance and support. My adoption caseworker, Kim, was there to guide me through every part of the adoption process. She had the patience to let me ask her as many questions as I wanted. Also, she took her time explaining what would happen in the next few days, months, and in the future. She went over my chosen adoption plan and made sure that I was okay with all the wants, needs and the personal preferences that I listed.
- What were questions and concerns that you had during your adoption?
My questions and concerns about my adoption journey involved asking more personal questions, and about explaining my daughter’s adoption story to her. I didn’t know how to explain to her how difficult my decision was, but my adoption caseworker helped me with that too — as did her adoptive parents. Having all of this support made me even more grateful for my decision and that Holly made me a birth mother.
- How will you share your adoption journey?
I chose to share my positive adoption story through many online social media accounts, like Facebook or Instagram. Sharing the joyful and the difficult moments of adoption that leave me a bit sad when I am missing my daughter was an important part of my adoption journey that showed my true struggle. Adoption may have its hard moments, but, as a pregnant woman considering adoption, it changed our lives for the better. This choice is a great one, as it helps adoptive people have a family, birth mothers who aren’t ready or able to raise their child, and helps give the child an opportunity for a better life.
Advice for Birth Mothers
Finding the right adoption agency that fits your personal preferences for adoption will be up to you as a birth mother. These six interview questions from a birth mother, and many others, will help you determine what is best for you and your child. Your adoption caseworker may also present other questions that you haven’t thought of as well.
But, all in all, we hope that this interview has helped inspire you and will be more than happy to address any questions or concerns you have if you’re interested in placing your baby for adoption. Our adoption agency is here to support and guide you every step of the way.
Meet the Author: Samara Wiley is a published author of poetry, essays, and an environmental children’s storybook called, Waiting for the Water Fairy. She graduated from Benedictine University in 2018 with a double Bachelor of Arts in English Literature and French.She has been published in three small poetry anthologies one was called Talented.
Her other writing accomplishments include: winning a high school poetry competition and $2500 for her high school, having two out of her five novels be considered for publication and writing movie critic reviews for her university’s newsletter.
Although she has Cerebral Palsy and has had a turbulent childhood, Samara puts these small specs of herself into her writing to personally connect with her audience. She prides herself on pushing the boundaries in her writing and in her personal life with everything she does. Samara writes with her heart and a voice of compassion, and loves to pull from her top passions in life.
She currently lives in Yorkville, Illinois with her mom and two sisters.